什么是“延迟满足”？你用对了吗？
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">近几年，一直教育家说起要培养孩子的“延迟满足”的能力。原因是拥有“延迟满足”这一个能力的孩子在以后的发展中会更有毅力，更加容易获得成功。因此几乎所有的家长都在刻意培养孩子的“延迟满足”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><b>什么是“延迟满足”？</b></span></section><blockquote style="margin-top: 8px;margin-bottom: 8px;padding-top: 0px;padding-left: 16px;border-left-width: 4px;border-left-color: rgb(153, 153, 153);color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">延迟满足是指一种甘愿为更有价值的长远结果而放弃即时满足的抉择取向， 以及在等待期中展示的自我控制能力。它的发展是个体完成各种任务、 协调人际关系、 成功适应社会的必要条件。</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">延迟满足来自20世纪60年代，美国心理教授米歇尔做的一个棉花糖实验。实验通过孩子是选择马上吃掉棉花糖还是等待工作人员回来吃棉花糖这个实验来确定学生是否能进行“延迟满足”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">并且再实验进行的多年之后，发现，不能“延迟满足”的孩子在无论在家里还是在学校，都更容易出现行为上的问题。因此，知道这个实验的家长就开始行动，想尽一切办法来锻炼孩子的“延迟满足”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><blockquote style="margin-top: 8px;margin-bottom: 8px;padding-top: 0px;padding-left: 16px;border-left-width: 4px;border-left-color: rgb(153, 153, 153);color: rgb(153, 153, 153);font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">场景1</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子：妈妈，我想吃颗糖</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈：你先做完作业吧。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">场景2</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子：妈妈，我想看会电视</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈：你先背一首古诗。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">场景3</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子：妈妈，我想吃蛋糕</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈：等你生日的时候就可以吃了。</span></section></blockquote><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">上面的三个情景都是我们经常见到的，也是大部分的家长常做的事，他们认为这样子既可以满足了奖励机制，也可以让孩子学会延迟满足，并且为自己的机智点赞。然而，真的是这样子吗？</span></section><p style="margin-right: 32px;margin-left: 32px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对于大部分的孩子来说，糖果，蛋糕，看电视更多变成了一种奖励，是不容易得到的，在随后的的日子里面，面对这类型的诱惑，反而更加不能坚持。很多家长不理解，他们认为自己是在训练孩子的能力，但是却得到了反效果。</span></section><p style="margin-right: 32px;margin-left: 32px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其实，在这其中更多地是家长对“延迟满足”了解不够，锻炼“延迟满足”并不是说只要孩子想要某种东西的时候，给他设置一定的条件就可以了。锻炼“延迟满足”要优先满足以下的条件。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;padding-left: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;list-style-type: inherit;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-weight: 700 !important;">要求孩子的心智发育到了一定的水平</span></p></li></ul><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">幼儿由于思维水平的限制，更多地只关注现在，不会考虑到未来，对于“延迟满足”更加不理解，因此在这个时候锻炼，并不会得到很好的效果，甚至会反作用，让他们认为这个奖励是非常难得的，如果出现了，要马上得到。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">根据研究，当孩子到5岁才会开始有“延迟满足”的条件，因此5岁前进行锻炼，其实效果不一定明显。这个锻炼可以考虑从5岁之后进行，这样子效果可能也会更好。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;padding-left: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;list-style-type: inherit;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-weight: 700 !important;">要求孩子的安全感得到满足</span></p></li></ul><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当孩子的安全感缺乏的时候，心仪的东西的出现只会让他们想办法得到手，因为他们不知道该不该相信说话的人，或者说，他们认为只有抓到自己手里的才是属于自己的。因此，要锻炼“延迟满足”的前提是，孩子有足够的安全感。</span></section><p style="margin-right: 32px;margin-left: 32px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;padding-left: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;list-style-type: inherit;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-weight: 700 !important;">要求孩子对奖励的渴望度不能太高</span></p></li></ul><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有时候，不同的奖励对孩子来说意义不一样，因此对锻炼的效果来说，也是差别很大的。比如，对于贫困地区的孩子来说，巧克力是一种奢侈品，那么让他们选择当天吃一颗，还是明天吃两颗，相信大部分的孩子都会选择当天吃。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为这个物品对他们来说太具有吸引力了，再等待一天对他们来说都是难熬的事情。但是对于平时偶尔能吃上一次的东西，对他们来说，还是可以等待的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;padding-left: 0px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;list-style-position: initial;list-style-image: initial;list-style-type: inherit;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-weight: 700 !important;">得到满足之前的任务不能太难</span></p></li></ul><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在锻炼“延迟满足”能力的时候，家长会设置各种各样的任务，做作业，背古诗，画画等等，这些都是孩子的日常任务，所以对孩子来说都是可以完成的，因此可以得到一定的效果。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">然而，某些时候，家长并不是真的是为了锻炼孩子，更多只是拿着个来当一个借口，比如当孩子想买一个电动车玩具的时候，因为价值较高，家长不乐意买，他们就会说：等你考试拿到班级第一名的时候就买给你。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果这孩子原本就是班级的前三名，这个任务固然可以，但是如果孩子只是班级的中游水平，这个难度就过高了。反而会导致孩子的逆反心理，出现反正也考不到这个成绩，妈妈就是不想买给我的念头，因此，这种就不是真正地“延迟满足”的锻炼，也不会起到效果。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“延迟满足”的能力其实就是自我控制的能力，锻炼“延迟满足”可以让孩子的自我控制能力更强，从而让孩子在成长的过程中学会如何自我控制。但是锻炼“延迟满足”需要的方法和技巧，不能盲目操作，从而错过了最好的时期。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-align: start;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-family: tahoma, arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;outline: 0px;zoom: 1;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, 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