成功的家庭教育有哪些指标？您做到了吗？
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><p data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们对于儿童的认知，远没有达到对外部世界、物质世界那样的程度。父母是孩子第一任老师，也是终身和永远的老师，有责无旁贷的特殊功能。把孩子的教育全盘托付给学校，是家长的失职和渎职。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家庭教育的功能是学校所不能代替的。学校面向大多数学生，提供的只是一个公共的、普遍的教育。按照统一进度、统一的课程，很难真正关注每一个儿童的差异。针对每一个学生个别的关注、指导和教育，必须由家长来完成。这就是家庭教育和学校教育的功能划分。因此，在发达国家，学生的在校时间受到严格控制。尤其是小学生，下午一点半要把孩子接回家，因为学校必须为家庭教育让出必要的时间。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85638" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="margin-top: 2em;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding-top: 0.5em;padding-bottom: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-style: solid none none;border-top-width: 1px;border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204);font-size: 1em;font-family: inherit;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(166, 166, 166);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: -1.2em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;border-width: initial;border-style: none;border-color: initial;line-height: 1.4;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 8px 23px;max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(183, 184, 184);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: inherit;font-size: 1em;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;background-color: rgb(15, 15, 25);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家庭教育的重点</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家长对于儿童教育的概念，第一是要宽容、善待。保护他们正常的生活，保护他们的身心健康，这是一种最重要的教育。也就是说，把儿童当作儿童来对待，儿童不是马戏团的小狗，必须学十八般武艺，走钢丝，钻火圈。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">第二是等待。韩国有一本书叫《好妈妈慢慢来》。现在家长太着急，容不得孩子自然成长，找各种速成的门道，拼命施化肥，能接什么好果子吗？早期教育不是提前教育，3岁不会的事5岁做得很好，5岁不会背的东西6岁不成问题，三年级不会做的题四年级做起来轻轻松松，着什么急呢？各种速成的东西满足的到底是什么呢，其实是家长的虚荣心！</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">第三是解放。陶行知提出解放儿童的头脑，解放儿童的眼睛，解放儿童的耳朵，解放儿童的嘴，解放儿童的时间，解放儿童的空间。不能越俎代庖、包办代替，不能过多地限制管控，也不宜过早定向。花盆里是长不出参天大树的。现在的做法是，层层施压，拔苗助长，大量施“化肥、农药”，把孩子的时间、空间全部占据了，那就把人教傻了，不可能培养出真正的人才。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">第四是发现。在家庭教育中，家长最重要的功能是帮助孩子发现他的自我，发现他的个性。更为具体的呢，第一，身心健康比上名校更重要。对于孩童来说，身心健康无疑是最重要的。“健康第一”并不是一句空话，体现在培养孩子的体育兴趣、体育能力和体育习惯，热爱户外活动。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">只要具备条件，应当让小学生学会骑自行车、游泳，两者是孩子能够终生享用的生存技能，意义非同寻常。喜爱户外活动、身体健康的孩子，往往心理也比较健康，这同样意义非凡。我们知道有这样一类孩子，他们身体健康，性格开朗，人缘好，活动和动手能力强，“除了学习不好，什么都好”。他们这种开朗、乐观的性格是战胜应试教育挫折、自我疗伤的“秘密武器”，并将带给他们一生的好运，这就是所谓的“性格决定命运”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85638" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="margin-top: 2em;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding-top: 0.5em;padding-bottom: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-style: solid none none;border-top-width: 1px;border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204);font-size: 1em;font-family: inherit;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(166, 166, 166);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: -1.2em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;border-width: initial;border-style: none;border-color: initial;line-height: 1.4;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 8px 23px;max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(183, 184, 184);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: inherit;font-size: 1em;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;background-color: rgb(15, 15, 25);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">人格养成</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家长要关注孩子的情商，而不是片面强调智商，使他成为一个大气、包容、有爱心的人。所谓的“3岁看小，7岁看老”，看的并不是会背几首唐诗，而是遵守游戏规则，有感恩之心，乐于助人，有宽容心，为人正直，学会尊重，乐于分享，善以待人，等等。是开朗、大气、亲和力、合作性、讲规矩，这些决定了一个孩子未来的发展，决定了他能不能成“大器”。一个小心眼、不合群、病恹恹的孩子，肯定是走不远的。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">人格养成还包括生活能力的培养，其价值是培养一个人自强自立的能力，这是中国家庭非常缺乏的。美国孩子很早就开始做家务了：2—3岁，自己扔垃圾，整理玩具；3—4岁，刷牙、浇花，喂宠物；4—5岁，铺床，摆餐具；5—6岁擦桌子，收拾房间；6—7岁洗碗盘，独立打扫房间；7—12岁：做简单的饭，清理洗手间，使用洗衣机；13岁以上：换灯泡，擦玻璃，清理冰箱，做饭，修草地，等等。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有一个日本小学生吃早饭的视频，食品的分配、餐后的餐具收拾、地面清洁都是小学生自己做的。一个中国家长惊呼：不到日本小学吃早饭，不知道我们已经输在起跑线上！</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85638" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="margin-top: 2em;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding-top: 0.5em;padding-bottom: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-style: solid none none;border-top-width: 1px;border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204);font-size: 1em;font-family: inherit;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(166, 166, 166);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: -1.2em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;border-width: initial;border-style: none;border-color: initial;line-height: 1.4;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 8px 23px;max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(183, 184, 184);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: inherit;font-size: 1em;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;background-color: rgb(15, 15, 25);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">与书为友</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">关注孩子的“精神成长”。对儿童而言，身体健康、人格健全、个性和兴趣、好奇心、想象力、热爱阅读，等等，是全世界通行的、能使孩子终身受益的早期教育，比那些考试排名、竞赛证书重要得多。过去有一句电子琴的广告语“学琴的孩子不会学坏”，阅读同样如此。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们看到太多被考试压倒的孩子，他们经常抱怨负担太重，没有闲暇时间做自己喜爱的事；但是如果你真的给他三天时间让他自主安排，就会发现他其实没有自己想看的书、想做的事，不知道做什么，精神上一片空白，如同崔健所唱的“我的病就是没有感觉”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">所谓“阅读奠基人生”，就是关注孩子的“精神成长”，培养他们阅读的兴趣。孩子在幼年与书结缘是一件大事。当一个孩子喜欢阅读、与书为友时，教育已经成功了一半，因为好的儿童读物是孩子的“精神母乳”，会奠定孩子的“精神底色”，影响孩子的终生成长。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">通过阅读和探究，孩子会逐渐形成自己特定的趣味和爱好，例如，喜欢科幻、喜欢历史、喜欢张爱玲或龙应台，通过热爱，形成一种生活方式，逐渐具备主动汲取自己所需的精神营养的能力。而且，阅读可以抵御电子游戏、过多看电视等对儿童有害的娱乐。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85638" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="margin-top: 2em;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding-top: 0.5em;padding-bottom: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-style: solid none none;border-top-width: 1px;border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204);font-size: 1em;font-family: inherit;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(166, 166, 166);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: -1.2em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;border-width: initial;border-style: none;border-color: initial;line-height: 1.4;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 8px 23px;max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(183, 184, 184);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: inherit;font-size: 1em;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;background-color: rgb(15, 15, 25);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">促进儿童的个性发展</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">作为家长，你知道自己身上肩负的重要使命吗？很可惜，现在很多家长只知道分数和名次。其实今后的竞争，将越来越不是“争第一”，而是“找唯一”——找到不同于别人的、真正属于你的独特的优势。因为教育的真谛，就是让孩子做最好的自己，没有个性就没有真正的成长。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家长不要光盯着考分，而要观察和发现孩子独特的禀赋、潜质、爱好，点燃儿童内心的火焰，找到儿童成长的方向，这也许需要很长时间。因此，有这么一句话：“让每一个孩子的天赋展现，是家长的终极使命！”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">巴菲特说，父母唯一应该为孩子做的事情就是找到孩子的热情所在，鼓励他全力以赴地去追求，并发挥得淋漓尽致。找到热情是一个辛苦而又玄妙的过程，需要很大的自由空间，父母如果施加压力，只会适得其反，父母只要告诉孩子做选择时不要考虑地位、回报或收入，要问心中的真诚和共鸣。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">旅美学者薛涌的教子经验是这样的。他说，早教有两个基本面向：</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">一是</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">“点燃孩子内心的火焰”，即培养孩子的信心、对世界的好奇心，刺激他对学习的兴趣，这就是“以孩子为中心”的启发式教育。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">另一个是</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">“给内心的火焰加柴”。孩子毕竟是孩子，面对困难、挫折时容易灰心，甚至放弃，而人类所有伟大的成就，都是以一系列挫折和坚韧不拔的意志为基本条件的。只有不断地加柴，火焰才能持续地燃烧，一块粗糙的矿石才能百炼成金。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子的精神发展、人格成长，包括如何帮助他形成自己的兴趣、爱好，这是令家长苦恼的事。究竟该不该让孩子上特长班学琴、学画、学英语、学奥数？如果不学，是否会“输在起跑线上”？这里并没有普遍适用的方法，关键是要从孩子的兴趣和条件出发，顺其自然，因材施教，而非强加于人。逼一个爱画的孩子去学琴，不可能有好的结果。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">但是孩子无常性，爱好会变化，该不该逼孩子坚持下去？这需要对每一个孩子的情况做具体分析，不宜笼统地下结论。在最理想的情况下，一个家长能为孩子所做的，是提供尽可能宽松的成长环境，在这一过程中鉴别和认识孩子真正的爱好和习性，加以引导和培养。俞平伯有一个教子理念，叫作大水养鱼，就是给孩子一个宽松、自由的环境，池子越大，水越多，才可能长成大鱼。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">另一个问题是，什么是符合儿童特点的学习。关于儿童究竟几岁学英语才合适，北京外国语大学的陈琳教授说得好：几岁都可以，关键是要符合儿童的特点，如在游戏中以儿歌、口语为主的学习。儿童早期教育最重要的不是知识和技能，而是小心翼翼地保护和滋养他们的想象力和好奇心。可惜的是，我们很多的早期教育恰恰是急功近利地以培养“小大人”为目标，以磨灭、摧毁孩子的童心和创造力为能事的。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子的人格发展和健康成长还有许多途径，在阅读和艺术教育之外，还需要靠与同龄儿童的游戏和交往，靠走进和热爱大自然，等等。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85638" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="margin-top: 2em;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding-top: 0.5em;padding-bottom: 0.5em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-style: solid none none;border-top-width: 1px;border-top-color: rgb(204, 204, 204);font-size: 1em;font-family: inherit;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(166, 166, 166);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-top: -1.2em;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;text-align: center;border-width: initial;border-style: none;border-color: initial;line-height: 1.4;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 8px 23px;max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(183, 184, 184);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: inherit;font-size: 1em;font-weight: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;background-color: rgb(15, 15, 25);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">家庭教育的成功指标</span></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">1. 孩子在幼年与书籍为友，与书结伴，从而奠定孩子的精神底色，促进孩子的精神成长。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">2. 合作性。预测一个孩子未来的发展，能走多远，能不能成大器，不是看乖不乖、听不听话、学习好不好，而是看他的情商、悟性、综合素质。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 27.2px;white-space: normal;widows: 1;font-family: Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3. 在高中前后能够形成比较明确的兴趣、爱好和特长，找到和形成“自我”，今后能够去自主地强化和发展。</span><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"></span></p><p><span></span></p><p><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 12px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span 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