给孩子补上人生重要一课：愤怒管理
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">很多家长以及需要和孩子工作的老师，咨询中经常会提到，真的对发脾气的孩子没办法，头大。<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而生气又是人类特别常见的情感，只是孩子一旦发脾气，大人不太能理解，就常被认为是“无理取闹”，就遭到爸爸妈妈或学校老师的批评甚至责骂。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这时候，孩子也会感到委屈，但是又不善于分析和表述，让父母或老师能理解自己的状态、情绪与情感。这样一来，孩子情绪反倒容易更糟糕与负面了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">很多国外的学校，会在幼儿园和小学阶段都会给在校的孩子上一堂愤怒管理（Anger Management）的课，作为人格教育（ Character Education）的一部分，内容主要有两个方面：</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="width: 577.422px;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">帮助小孩认识、理解自己的“愤怒”（Anger）情绪</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">培养应对这种情绪的能力。</span></section></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">以下就把一些课堂教育里应用的方法介绍给大家，家长们也可以在日常生活中，找机会给孩子做一做相应的练习。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><strong style="color: rgb(23, 157, 104);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 2px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">01<br></span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">认知“愤怒”是怎么一回事？</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><strong style="color: rgb(23, 157, 104);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 2px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">首先，建议家长也和孩子们一起来学学关于愤怒的常识。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">以下这张表格，就是测试关于“愤怒”认知程度的：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">翻译成中文，是10道判断对错题，分别回答是否就可以了：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">1）你可以控制自己的愤怒。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">2）愤怒是一种正常的情绪。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3）忽略你的愤怒，它就会消失。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">4）愤怒通常和压力大有关。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">5）愤怒管理技巧与生俱来。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">6）发泄愤怒有时候可以帮你解决问题。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">7）发泄是表达愤怒的健康方式。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">8）压抑自己的愤怒可能是危险的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">9）愤怒管理最好是在你不愤怒的时候学习。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">10）每个人的愤怒点都是一样的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">答案：1-True，2-True，3-False，4-True，5-False，6-False，7-False，8-True，9-True，10-False</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">以上的测试题，作为家长或老师，可以和孩子一起做，做完一起讨论。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">讨论中主要让孩子认识到：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: disc;"><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">愤怒是一种很平常也很正常的情绪；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">压力山大的时候，我们更容易愤怒；</span><br></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们生气的时候通过一些行为、语言来发泄，是不利于解决问题的；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">一个人明明生气了，却不肯承认和面对这种情绪，也是不对的；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">好消息是，一个人是可以控制自己的情绪的，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">只是，我们需要学习有关的技能。</span></p></li></ul><p><br></p><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="29959" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">02 </span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">让孩子学会理解自己为什么愤怒</span></strong></span></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">以上这张图片，叫愤怒冰山（Anger Iceberg），意思是：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">愤怒往往是一个人的表象（隐喻是海面上的冰山）；而实际上愤怒的背后，其实藏着很多你看不到，甚至连自己也没有看到的深层原因（海面以下的冰山）</strong><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">。</span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">下面的冰山比看得到的海面上的冰山要大得多，隐藏着各种情绪。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">身心俱疲，焦虑，羞耻，被冒犯，被拒绝，被威胁，被忽视，不被信任，对自己或对别人失望，难堪，屈辱，害怕，伤心，受伤，悲痛，愧疚，孤单，无助，挫折，担忧，嫉妒，缺乏安全感，等等 ... </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这些压抑的冰山下的情绪才是导致人们生气发火的内在原因。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对于小孩来说，最常见的有担忧（</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">worried），<span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">困惑</span>（confused）, 失望（disappointed），难过（sad）, 出乎意料（surprised）, 难堪（embarassed） ... </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">仔细想想，小孩生气（甚至我们自己生气）都是和这些内在的自我感觉有关的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">也可以借鉴上面的这张表格，让孩子们往前多走一步，更深入一些，做这个表达练习：</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">当XXX发生的时候，我感觉XXX（</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">I felt ---- when ---- ）</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如：当妈妈看手机的时候，我感觉不受重视，被冷落。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">其实我们在心理咨询室里，有时候也会应用这样的方式。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">当孩子生气的时候，我们也可以和ta一起看看这个情绪的冰山（家长或老师可以自己制作一个中文版），让ta找到对应的情绪，会很有用。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: center;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">03 </strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: center;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">让孩子学会如何“愤怒”</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">当我们愤怒的时候，我们的本能是向别人、向外界发泄自己的这些情绪。</span>而如果不计后果纯发泄，不仅不能真正解决问题，反而会付出更大的代价，也经常给周围的人造成很大的困扰。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">所以我们要学会认知和转化、管理自己的愤怒。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">很喜欢这句话：</span><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">你当然有权利也可以生气，但不能伤害别人，伤害你自己，损害周围物品。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">在教给孩子这个概念的基础上，让孩子们做些练习，在不生气（平静）的时候学习有关生气的</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">基本规则</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">（</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">Ground Rules）：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: disc;"><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哪些可以做 (What's Okay)；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哪些不能做 (What's Not Okay) 。</span></p></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">以下这个表格，你也可以试着和孩子一起去填写，是个很有帮助的小练习。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">并且，爸爸妈妈在家，老师在学校，也可以尝试着和“容易发火”的孩子签订一个愤怒行为协议（Anger Behavior Contract）。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如，让孩子承诺：生气的时候，可以自己单独呆一会儿，不动手，可以出去走走路，但是不会大吵大闹，不说难听的话等等。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">签合同的过程不要小看哦，仪式感很重要，我们不见得那么正儿八经地照着标准合同流程签，但是和孩子形成这样的默契，哪怕是口头上的，还是很有必要的，大家不妨一试。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">以下是英文版的范本：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: center;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">04</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;text-align: center;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">日常细节中应用愤怒</strong></span><strong style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">管理技巧</strong><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><strong style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(23, 157, 104);letter-spacing: 2px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">关于愤怒管理，国内外心理学界和教育界有大把大把的研究，但大多数家长都不用去研究这些，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">了解一下教孩子的一些“基本招数”，平时互动时能灵活使用，就够了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">首先，让孩子认识觉察到自己“生气”了</strong></span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">先来个提问：你一般都是怎么知道自己生气了的？</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如何让孩子能清醒地意识到“自己生气”了，很难但是可以学习，因为</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">其实有大量的身体语言在表达“愤怒”。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"><br></span></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: disc;"><li><p><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">脸红了，而且很烫；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">心跳快了；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">手掌出汗了；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;">眩晕，头脑发晕了；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;">肌肉变得紧张；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;">拳头握起来了；</span></p></li><li><p><span style="font-size: 16px;">等等</span>...<span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(117, 57, 0);"> </span></p></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这个识别的过程说起来感觉很简单。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">但大多数时候，我们处在愤怒中的时候，都很难觉察，我们已经被愤怒所淹没了，很难对自己处于什么状态有所认知。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果可以通过观察自己的身体语言意识到自己在生气，其实就是一个非常好的自我提醒，提醒自己：</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">也许现在可以开始控制情绪了~~</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;font-weight: bold;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">了解触发自己生气的因素（Triggers）</span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这个和前面说的情绪冰山有点相似，而这个因素（Trigger ）更多指的是是表面上的、能观察到的事件。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: disc;"><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">大人不许我做这事那事儿</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">大人误会我了</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我今天迟到了</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">还要等待很长时间</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">功课太多</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我的意见不被认同或重视<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有人说我坏话</span></p></li><li><p><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">等等 ...</span></p></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span>像小学中、高年级的孩子，用以上这样一个简单的表就可以来分析“导致自己生气、沮丧的因素”有哪些了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而以下这张图，还可以进一步分析这些事件：一般在什么情况下发生。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">知道自己的 Trigger 在哪里，一般在什么情况下发生，那么孩子就会在遇到这些的时候，就可以有意识地管理自己的情绪，告诉自己：</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这次，我可以试着换种角度去看问题，而不是乱发脾气~~</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">评估愤怒程度不同，相应处理方法也不同</strong></span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">评估方法一：</span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">从独自感到沮丧到对着别人大发雷霆，会涉及到愤怒程度（Anger Scale）的问题，以下罗列的都是有关生气程度不同的词语：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">upset, mad, irritated, ticked off, heated, irked, furious, enraged, irate, frustrated, livid, aggravated ......</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们也可以试着来罗列一下，在我们中文里描述不同生气程度的词：愤怒、恼怒、暴怒......等等......</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><strong style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">处理方法一：</span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">可以教孩子们做下面这个连线练习，思考怎么把自己的感觉（I feel）和自己的行为 （I need）做一个合理的关联。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">评估方法二：</span></strong></span></section><section style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">可以教给孩子一个自我评估训练：让孩子们把自己的情绪，从平静到非常生气，分为五级，在愤怒的当下看看自己在第几级。</span></section><section style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">处理方法二：</span></strong></span><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"></strong>下面“愤怒的小鸟”这个游戏就演示了从平静（1）到气爆了（5）的五种生气级别，以及五个对待方式，老师上情绪课或家长在做家庭教育过程中，可以用：<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">5级：我快要气爆了—— 找个安静的地方自己待一会儿</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">4级：我很沮丧，快要控制不住了，可能会说难听的话 —— 深呼吸，换气</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3级：感觉不太好，我有些沮丧又有些激动，感觉有些冲动 —— 找点别的事儿去做，让自己平静下来</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">2级：不高兴，还有点烦，有点担心，有点懊恼 —— 告诉大人我的感觉</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">1级：我感觉不错，自控很好 —— 现在我终于恢复平静了</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不论是大人还是孩子，在很生气的情况下，最重要的还是要靠自己去排解，所以让孩子在这方面有些基本常识、技能，是很有必要的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">最后，<span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">停止并思考</span>的冷处理方式（Stop and think）：不管遇到什么情况，让孩子一定记住</strong></span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这是处理绝大多数“愤怒”情况的黄金法则，可以说，能做到这一点，已经做到了情绪管理的第一步：不乱发脾气了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">暂停（</span>Time Out）是一个主要的停止并思考（</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">Stop and Think</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">）</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">冷处理方式。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有一个暂停告知单（Time Out Pass</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">）模板可以供大家参考，写下来交给孩子，让他们在感到很生气的时候，可以拿出这个纸条，请求老师或家长给自己一个暂停 ...</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">研究表明，“暂停”这一招不光对小孩，对大人也很管用。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么呢？</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">作为一个人（不仅仅是孩子，还包括大人在内）在冲突环境下，是很难做到让自己平静下来，恢复理性的；而这个方式能让一个人暂时脱离引发自己生气的环境，这对于自我反思、缓解情绪非常有帮助。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不过如果是大人要求小孩去 Time Out，一定要注意尽量不要让小孩感觉ta被孤立、隔离了，而是让ta懂得：</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">爸爸妈妈就在边上，会陪着你，会等你安静下来后再和你沟通。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">即使生气，也要保持积极的心态</strong></span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">即使我们生气了，也不要忘了解决问题才是目标。因此，我们在表达自己的意见和情绪时，也要有这样的觉察</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">也就是自信地表达你的需求和顾虑（needs and concerns），但是注意</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">坚定、坚决（<span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">be assertive</span>）</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">，是“</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">不含敌意的坚决”。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而不要走到</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">激烈，有攻击性 （be aggressive）那一步。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这样</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">be assertive程度的行为大致有：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">说出自己的感受</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">语气平静</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有必要的话能为自己的需求去谈判</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有自己的立场但也能倾听和理解别人的观点</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">有能力生气</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">有能力把问题解释清楚</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">等等......</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而<span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">be aggressive</span>的行为大致有：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">把责任推给别人</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">拒绝聆听和理解别人的立场和看法</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对别人进行言语或行动威胁</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">说不妥当的话</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">等等......</span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">下面这张图就很说明问题。只看到自己的需要，一个人会比较倾向于</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">侵略型</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">（</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;">Aggressive</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;">），只照顾别人的需要，又太倾向于被动型</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;"> （Passive）</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;">....</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">兼顾两种需要，有礼有节，才算<span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;">“</span><span style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">不含敌意的坚决”</span>（Assertive</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">） </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有礼有节，恰当表达自己需求（I Statements）有三步：</span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">开头是我感觉（I feel）</span></p></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">然后是说明哪些现实情况带来这种感觉（behavior / situation）</span></p></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">最后是什么原因导致在这种情况下我会有这种感觉（because 或 effect）</span></p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br><span style="font-size: 16px;"></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">其它的一些小贴士：</strong><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><strong style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果是低龄小朋友，可以给ta准备一个</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">冷静盒子</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">（</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">calm down box</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">），</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">这个盒子里可以放一些孩子喜欢的照片、书、作品、纸笔，小玩具之类 ...</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">当</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">ta生气的时候，让ta转移注意力，摆弄自己的小百宝箱，逐渐安静下来。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">这是国外一个妈妈晒的她家的 “安静盒子” ...</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而对大孩子来说，可以引导他们用一些结构化的方法来分析自己遇到的问题，思考解决方案。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">下面是一张问题解决思考表：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><br></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">（让我生气）的问题是什么？</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对这个问题，有没有不同看法？</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">下次生气，我的应对策略是什么？</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有哪些可能的解决方法？</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">具体会怎么做</span></section></li><li style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">等等......</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">现代生活里，大家的压力都很大，孩子在这些体系中也不能“幸免”，</span><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">来自社会的压力会转化为来自学校、家长的压力，加上来自同辈的压力（peer pressures），不可避免地会让孩子或多或少产生 “生气”、“愤怒”的情绪。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">家长也需要有意识来提升自身的情绪管控能力，才能更好的给予孩子及时有效的理解与帮助。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 14px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 0.476px;widows: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 14px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: PingFangTC-light;letter-spacing: 0.476px;widows: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">- END -</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(127, 127, 127);font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 12.6316px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 34px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">文章内容来源网络，文字转载整理自公众号：郑州枫林心理咨询</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box 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