夜读 | 父母的最大误区，就是和青春期的孩子“较劲”
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!important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="padding: 10px;max-width: 558px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);">愿每一位父母都是青春期里麦田的守望者。</span></strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p>有位作家说：陪伴青春期的孩子，说得难听一点，就是陪伴一头老虎，得小心翼翼。</p><p><br></p><p>青春期的孩子自尊心极强，行为极易冲动。前几年在上心理学课程时，心理学老师特别强调说，青春期的孩子有两大特点：自我意识强，每件事都希望自己做主，而不是父母做主；自尊心极强，很好面子。</p><p><br></p><p>如果家里有青春期的孩子，一定不能做两件事：不要二话不说就冲过去砸掉孩子的手机、拔掉孩子的电脑线；不要辱骂或者当众批评孩子。否则孩子可能会做出过激的行为。</p><p><br></p><p>一位教育学家说过：<strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">在影响孩子的内心世界时，不应挫伤他们心灵中最敏感的一个角落——自尊心。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p>孩子犯了错误，管教是需要的，但是比起孩子的自尊心，管教孩子没有那么刻不容缓。保护青春期孩子的自尊心，是每一位父母都要意识到的事情。</p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong>青春期，父母应该成为“稳住”孩子的那个人，而不是“击垮”孩子的那个人。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: 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!important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-indent: 28px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">名家画廊 | </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-indent: 28px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: left;text-indent: 28px;caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">克劳德·莫奈</span></span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p><br></p><p>青春期的过程，是少年逐渐摆脱父母、走向成人的过程，这一过程，被称为“心理断乳期”。</p><p><br></p><p>他们渴望获得独立、渴望父母重新审视自己，把自己当成大人看待。正是因为儿童心理模式被打破，成熟的心理模式尚未完全建立，青春期的孩子才会变得挣扎混沌，叛逆激进，像一个火药包，易燃易爆炸。</p><p><br></p><p>有研究表示，青春期的孩子，大脑的多巴胺神经回路会变得异常活跃。这种多巴胺的增加会让孩子冲动，不经周密的思考就采取行动，也就是不经过大脑做事。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">所以一旦心情过激，孩子不会考虑生命安全的后果，而是满心想着报复。他们想要的不过是极端报复后，父母后悔的快感。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p>压死骆驼的不是一根稻草，而是千千万万根。青春期孩子的偏激，也不是一次责骂而成，而是父母次次不理解、甚至责骂和打击导致而成。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">如果父母可以给孩子多一些尊重、接纳，就会是另一个故事。</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;line-height: 27.2px;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 14px;caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136);letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-indent: 28px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">名家画廊 | </span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-indent: 28px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: left;text-indent: 28px;caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">克劳德·莫奈</span></span></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p><br></p><p>青春期孩子的悲剧，大部分原因是家长少了倾听，用暴力语言去激化矛盾，把孩子越推越远。</p><p><br></p><p>如果想跨过“青春期障碍”这道坎，必须与孩子建立起良好的沟通。遇事不要急着否定、责骂，先倾听；解决问题不可以暴制暴，需要以柔克刚，让孩子懂得为什么。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">赢得十几岁孩子的最好方法，是以和善、坚定、尊重的态度，先和他们站在一边。让孩子在被理解的支撑中，得到自尊感和归属感。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p>青春期的孩子性格刚烈，一旦父母也冲动严厉，那么就会像是狮子遇到狼，或僵持不下，或两败俱伤。</p><p><br></p><p>对待青春期的孩子多一些耐心，你接纳孩子的程度，决定了青春期孩子和你关系的深度。</p><p><br></p><p>爱和理解、等待和接纳，才是青春期孩子的出路和救赎。 </p><p><br></p><p>愿每一位父母都是青春期里麦田的守望者，远远看着，在孩子需要时，伸出双手，告诉孩子：爸妈在。 </p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word 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