学了很多课，道理也都懂，父母为什么仍然搞不定孩子
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">别人说的好方法，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">书上的知识对自家孩子却</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">不管用，是很多父母普遍的感觉。</span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我也常常在咨询室里遇到爸妈们抱怨，之前参加了很多父母课堂、学习培训，发现没用，耗费时间金钱还不解决问题，折腾一番，</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">最终才来求助于咨询师。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么我花了很多时间学习教育知识，但到实践中还是束手无策？</span></p></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么别人学了有用，对我的孩子就不奏效？</span></p></li><li style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;text-align: justify;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这么多的知识，我应该怎么学才对？</span></p></li></ul><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">今天我们想在这个知识信息过剩的阶段，谈一谈“为什么你懂了很多道理，却还是搞不定你的孩子？”</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">01<br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么现在的爸妈，</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">要学这么多育儿理论？</strong></span></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">全民关注科学教育，是社会文明进步的表现。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们这一代父母大多是经历信息爆炸时期的子女，在理念上很可能与上一辈人有代沟，我们希望用更人性更科学的方式养育孩子；同时，我们也没有怎么见证过父母养育孩子的过程，不像过去，因为兄弟姐妹多，所以对于如何养育孩子可能从很小就有感性认识。尤其对独生子女父母们而言，学习知识的过程可以认识更多志同道合的人，看到别人是如何在养育孩子的。这种参照对父母的教育也非常重要。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不管学到的东西是不是真的适合自己和孩子，父母在学习过程当中，也或多或少会产生一些自我觉察，这些自我觉察，最终也会帮助到孩子和父母。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以科学教育，本质是非常值得鼓励的。</span></span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">但任何东西都是过犹不及，我们要怎么样把握好这个度，是我们真正要去关注的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">狂热学习知识的背后，经常隐藏着父母的极度焦虑和心理问题：</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">1）父母需要全能感</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">“我能搞定孩子的所有问题”。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">当父母的人都或多或少在一些时候会有一些幻想，觉得自己什么都可以搞定。</span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br></span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">有的父母遇到问题时会意识到，每个人有自己的优势，也有自己的局限，我有时做得不够好，这也很正常。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">孩子有自己的力量和局限，他有时做的不完美也正常。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">这是一个比较成熟的状态。</span></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是有些父母不太成熟，他就会觉得“我一定能找到办法，搞定孩子所有的问题”。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我在生活当中也经常会被人问到，你身为一个心理治疗师是不是经常能搞定自己的孩子，我对这个问题回答的是：</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: disc;"><li style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><p><span style="font-size: 15px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我在生活当中，我不是一个做心理治疗的人，我是他的妈妈。但不管是在工作中还是生活中，我都不喜欢用“搞定”二字，感觉这个词语已经隐含着不那么平等的意味了，“理解”孩子才是成长真正发生的起点。<br></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><br></p></li><li style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: justify;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(136, 136, 136);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果一定要说这个职业带给我什么的话，我觉得它让我知道，有时候孩子有一些毛病也不是什么大事。 </span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p></li></ul><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我觉得可能很多人，对于我的职业也会有一种幻想，会觉得我们可能像机器猫一样，永远装着各种各样的方法，可以搞定别人，但是其实未必如此。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们可能只是更多知道，怎么样更加用心地和孩子进行交流，真的看到孩子一些行为背后的需求，而不是试图用一种大而全的方法，搞定所有的孩子。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有些机构为了营销，为了经济上的利益，可能会把自己包装成万能工具（我个人觉得，万能工具是不存在的）。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">这样一种宣传，也会让父母产生全能感，觉得我只要学了这些东西，什么都能搞定，孩子绝对没问题。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">这种全能感，对于亲子关系来说，反而是非常负面的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">2）父母的童年创伤</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">“过去我没有的，我不想孩子也没有”。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们父母养育我们时，基本物质能满足，学业跟得上就可以，精神层面很少过问。可能很少有人管你心理健康、精神发展，这都是近些年才有的概念。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以某种程度上，我觉得现在父母对知识的狂热，也来自于童年某种匮乏。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">我们可能没有被父母非常温柔地相待过，所以，我们可能非常想要学习：</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">究竟怎么样可以和孩子走得更近，怎样可以给孩子一个非常良好的成长环境。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">这个出发点本身是非常好的，但是要实现也不简单。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为，如果我们小时候没有被温柔相待过，你要去温柔对待一个孩子，你要去提供一些自己从没经历过的东西，并不是那么容易的一件事情。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这些并不是看几本书就可以搞定的，而是需要你大量地去进行一些情绪上的觉察，甚至于说，可能是你也需要发展自己的一些情绪调节能力，才可以慢慢做到那样的程度。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3）信息爆炸的时代，衍生育儿焦虑</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们的确处在一个焦虑的时代，信息量特别大，信息传播速度也非常快。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">尤其是作为独生子女的父母，特别怕别人有一些自己没有的东西，所以可能对于知识育儿也会格外渴望，很担心说，自己漏了一些别人知道的东西，从而错过了孩子最好的发展期。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而且，在我们的文化中，也是崇尚知识的，觉得万般皆下品，唯有读书高。这些东西混在一起，就促成了知识混乱的狂潮。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">02</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么学了这么多理论，</strong></span><strong style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">还是不奏效？</strong></section><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="margin-right: 5px;margin-left: 5px;max-width: 100%;display: flex;align-items: center;justify-content: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">1）总希望：“你教我一个办法，让我一招搞定孩子”</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多爸妈来咨询的时候，心态比较急切。最好是我花了钱，你就给我一个方法让我迅速搞定我的孩子。尤其现在有一些家长课堂或者微课的网上答疑之类的，你会看到很多父母想要一个很简单的回答，去解决一个特别大的问题。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如说，有的父母会说，我的孩子一生气就大吵大闹，怎么办？</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这个问题很大，大到可以写一整本书，但很多父母会有一种幻想，会觉得最好有个理论，可以帮我快速搞定这些东西，这种功利化的育儿倾向，还是挺明显的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">可问题发生时，父母最应该看到的是孩子，而不是知识。过度的知识型育儿，会隔离情感，只剩下解决方案，这样孩子是很难接受的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">比如，某派育儿理论中里有个工具化的操作技巧，家长在和孩子沟通时，应该先和孩子反馈他的感受——比如“我知道你现在很生气，因为妈妈没有给你吃这块巧克力，你感到非常非常生气。”</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">反馈孩子情感这个出发点是好的，也很重要。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">但有些爸妈只想着照搬书上或讲师的原话，机械化操作，反复地对孩子说这句话，而没有看到自己孩子当下的情绪有何独特之处。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">比如，孩子的不高兴有可能并非因为没吃到巧克力，而是对父母最近工作太忙感到失落；</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">也有可能是因为家里有了弟弟妹妹，孩子心里有不公平和委屈的情绪没被看见。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对孩子来说，他需要的是有人能够帮他，看到专属于自己的真实情感并表达出来。被看见这部分情感需求后孩子才有机会继续往前走一步，去发展更成熟的模式与方法处理坏情绪。而机械死板的照搬理论，对孩子是肯定不管用的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">2）理论是一样的，但每个孩子都不一样</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">不管学了多少东西，父母都应该知道，每个孩子、每个家庭都是不一样的。没有一条全球通用的原则，能适用所有人。我们身为一个人类，身为一个父母，去明白自己具有知识的局限性，也是父母成长很重要的一部分。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">即使我作为一个专家，我都要承认，咨询中必须花很多时候去了解孩子是怎样的人，父母是怎样的人，家庭内部关系怎样，才能把理论和眼前的孩子结合。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而父母如果学到的东西，只是书本上的，而忽略了眼前孩子的独特性，这样的理论就只是“别人家的理论”了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">“头痛医头，脚痛医脚”这种方式不适合教育孩子。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">有时，一些刚上完某种亲子沟通技巧培训回家的父母，经常会发现在短期内，那些策略对孩子是有用的，但时间久了又不行。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">一些方法可能一次两次有用，但是时间久了，你会发现该有的问题还是在那儿，孩子背后的压力源没有解决。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="font-size: 17px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="font-size: 17px;max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多人会反反复复参加复训，他会想如果那样做不管用了，是不是自己哪里做错了。但这些培训的参加者里，有很多人真正的问题，可能是父母本身的关系问题，或者是爸妈本身的人格问题</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">，或者是家庭在经历严重的危机，但是父母会回避这些问题的存在，对这些问题视而不见。</span></section></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">要知道，孩子各种让父母头疼的行为，背后总可能有更深层次的原因。</span><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有时候并不一定是因为父母养育他的方式不对，而是因为孩子对于家庭关系有各种各样难以言说的感觉，以至于他会付诸行动。孩子的症状本身，可能是孩子对家庭关系的觉察后的一些无意识行为——可能是因为父母关系不好，或者家里总有人吵架，或是有了二胎，老大感觉很不开心。这些情感层面的问题，需要家长能够从根源上去面对。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">死死抱着知识，而不去面对家庭中真正的问题，这是没办法让孩子的问题行为得到改善的。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3）理论，并不都是正确的</strong></span><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">本身人类在知识这件事情上是有局限性，觉得知识无所不能的人，往往是非常自恋的人。即使某个教育的理论有极高的普适性，但任何工具的使用，都需要大量的操练。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我作为一个心理咨询师，即使我学了很多的理论，但没有实践的话，也很难把握得很好。有一些所谓课程，大量去教家长运用心理咨询的技术和技巧，可能从出发点来说是挺好的。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">但这样一些技巧，即使对于一个咨询师来说，都是经过大量的操练、督导和自我体验才可以去运用他的，对普通的父母来说，就更难了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你拿着一把刀，你既可以拿它去做手术，可以拿它做饭，也可以拿它杀人，这个刀本身是可以的，但用它的人是谁，以及目的是什么就很重要。如果孩子察觉到“知识”是父母用来控制自己的工具，那么也一定会用各种方式“还击”的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">市面上也有一些不合格的心理方面的讲师，他自己本身就有很大的人格局限，可能自己非常偏执、有严重创伤。这样一种人，很多理论经过他再被传授，可能就无法完整地表达，意思就被曲解了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其实，心理咨询的这些技术和技巧，即使作为心理咨询师也不会在咨询室外刻意使用的。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">不然的话，会让人感觉非常不真实，或者说可能会让人感觉被冒犯，会感觉自己一直在被人盯着分析，这种感觉并不是很舒服。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">而且很多技术，可以用在心理临床的一些领域，但是用在日常当中不一定合适。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span></span></p><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></section><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">03</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">面对各色教育方法和理论，</strong></span><strong style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">爸妈应该怎么选择？</strong></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">1）建议爸妈多看真正经典的书籍</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">有很多近几年发展出来的学术理论，更像是一个商品化的工具，这些商品化的工具，很多时候是基于一些非常经典的前人的理论或者研究而产生的，但是因为是个商品，所以难免有变味的地方。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">所以我会建议父母像追根溯源一样，去静下心来看一两本经典的、畅销很久的好书，尤其是不要被商品化的东西迷惑了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">2）去思考自己身为一个孩子的体验</strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对一个父母而言，他最大的力量来源并不是书本，而是他自己曾经身为一个孩子的体验，不管体验是好的还是坏的，都可以带给他很多的启发和思考，去怎么对待自己的孩子。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这一部分很重要，因为有些人可能童年过得并不幸福，他可能有很多的痛苦和创伤。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这种父母可能自己小时候没有被好好对待，所以他知道有时父母的无心之失可能给一个孩子带来多大的影响，他不想把这样的影响在自己孩子身上重演。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">因此，会过于小心谨慎衡量自己在养育孩子过程当中的种种表现，过于焦虑。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-size: 16px;">但是这种焦虑背后，可能是他自己内心有一些非常创伤性的体验。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">也有一种可能是，当他在做父母的时候，很容易把一些熟悉而难以言说的感觉去付诸行动，比如说被家暴的人，他可能又去打孩子了。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">也许他没有这样一个直面自己童年成长经历的过程，因为去看到那一部分，对他而言可能是非常痛苦的，这一方面当然可以求助心理咨询师，也是花时间最少，性价比最高的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果自己悟性不错，不想求助心理咨询师，我觉得看一些文学作品、影视作品，或者只是和自己的配偶聊一聊，和朋友聊一聊，或者自己写一些类似于自传的东西去疗愈自己，也都是可能的一种方式，去重新找回自己身为一个孩子的体验。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">而这一部分体验对每一个家长来说，都是非常丰富的宝藏。很多父母来到我的咨询室里面，最终学会的，并不是怎么样翻某本书找到一个答案，而是教会他怎么通过自己去寻找到一个适合孩子的答案，而这个部分中家长能觉察到自己身为一个孩子的体验是非常重要的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不管是作为一个父母还是一个人，都要看到自己有局限性的一部分，这个才是让自己和周围人过得更好的生活秘诀。</strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3）爸妈要有独立思考的能力</strong><br></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">很多父母都希望自己的孩子，拥有独立思考的能力。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">其实父母是孩子最好的老师，当我们在学习这些知识理论的时候，也需要有这种独立思考的能力，并不是说别人告诉你他是全能的，你就接受他是全能的。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你需要有一种思辨的方式，去看待这些理论好的地方有哪些，局限的地方有哪些，适合我孩子的有哪些，不适合我孩子的有哪些。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">包括刚才提到的可以看一些经典的书，可能有些也会随着历史的变迁有一些变化，因为现在的时代和过去很不一样了。</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></section><section style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;min-height: 1em;text-size-adjust: auto;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: justify;margin-left: 0px;margin-right: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">批判性思维和独立思考的能力，这也是父母的一项自我修炼。面对眼花缭乱的信息爆炸和理论知识，这点尤为重要。</span></section><p><br></p></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;font-size: 15px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box 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