教育孩子的十二条重要法则
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">今天跟大家分享的是教育孩子的十二条法则，都是从儿童青少年心理发展特点衍生出来的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，在具体实施时需要顺应家庭环境和孩子的性格特点，可以选择适合自己孩子的方法借鉴一二~~</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">01</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">归属法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">保证孩子在健康的家庭环境中成长</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">这条看起来是不言而喻的，哪个家长不想给孩子创造健康环境？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">但实际上也不尽然，有些家长有此心却不懂如何做。比如，过分溺爱娇惯顺从孩子，由着孩子瞎吃瞎玩，不锻炼不劳动，养成不健康的生活习惯。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">还有一些家长之间有矛盾经常争吵，也是很不正常不健康的环境。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">或者破碎家庭、长期分离的家庭更让孩子缺少归属感。如果家庭变化不可避免，家长要用正面的健康的方式来安慰疏导孩子，而不可采取疏于管教或溺爱或过分严厉等极端措施，更不能因家庭破裂而迁怒于子女。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">希望法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">永远让孩子看到希望</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长们都是对孩子寄予希望的，但是否永远用正面鼓励的话语让孩子们看到希望，认为自己确实有希望呢？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多家长其实是善于说好听的话的，尤其对孩子，无论他们做的如何，都常夸奖说：“干的好”，“太棒了”，“你真是天才”之类。这就是采用希望法则来正面激励孩子。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另一些家长也同样对孩子期待值颇高，却不善于用希望法则，而爱找差距挑毛病，孩子得了95分，还非要追究为什么丢了5分。这种高标准严要求兴许适得其反，会扼杀孩子的很多希望使其灰心丧气。</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">力量法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">永远不要与孩子斗强</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">成人总是比孩子有力量的，无论是拼体力还是斗智能和经验。因此大人与孩子较劲斗强本来就不平等，胜利了也不光彩。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，大人可以和孩子比赛一些他们擅长的具体项目，比如下棋、打球等等，但不要完全以输赢为目的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长、老师以及与孩子关系密切的成年人，不可采用与孩子赌气、硬比等方式去刺激孩子。对心理感情处于不成熟阶段的孩子来说，“激将法”什么时候都是不合适的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">而且，如果孩子与大人吵架赌气，无论谁有理，大人都要主动与他们和解。成年人还要勇于承认自己的错误，尤其对孩子，该道歉该认错要及时进行。如果家长知错不改或不认，觉得在孩子面前认错是丢脸，也会让孩子学得固执己见。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">04</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">管理法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在孩子未成年前，管束是父母的责任</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">未成年的孩子自我克制能力尚不成熟，因此父母必须负起责任来管束。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">但这种管束应该是充满亲情、人性化、科学而理性的，而不可把孩子作为私有财产来任意修理摆布。也不可采用简单粗暴的命令式，毫不顾及和尊重孩子的想法和人格。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另一方面，未成年孩子把家长视为靠山，合理的管教关怀，会让孩子们有安全感和被支持感，遇到问题危难会求助于家长。如果家长平时对孩子的一切（学业、表现、爱好等）太听之任之，好像是给孩子更多自由，但孩子却会感觉家长对自己“不在乎”而产生疏远。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">05</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">声音法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要倾听他们的声音</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">平等的对待孩子，给他们发言权，倾听他们的声音，他们才会说出真实思想。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果大人不尊重孩子的想法，忽视他们的心声，久而久之，他们会不敢对家长说真话，不爱与家长交流。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">而且，家长是孩子的老师和榜样，如果家长不耐心倾听孩子的话，孩子也会学样，不肯听大人的话，以至不懂得如何尊重他人。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">尤其是对年幼的孩子，哪怕他们讲话词不达意，大人也要耐心地与他们交谈。任何粗暴打断或嘲笑他们讲话的行为，都会对孩子产生伤害，可能会影响他们的表达能力而羞于在人前开口，也或许反之，令孩子非要不合时宜地插话以引起大人的注意。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">06</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">榜样法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">言传身教对孩子的榜样作用是巨大的</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“以身作则，言传身教”是放之四海而皆准的。孩子的教养、兴趣、爱好等，多半来自生长环境的耳濡目染。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">父母、兄姐、亲友、师长、社会关系等都对孩子产生影响。母亲对于女孩，父亲对于男孩的影响颇为重要。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">除了家庭内的榜样，也要注意所交往的社会关系和常去的场合对孩子的影响。对少年来说，家长还要关注孩子喜欢看的媒体影视片，了解他们心目中的偶像是什么样。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果发现孩子误交损友，不要武断地阻止他们来往，而要了解情况。孩子们都需要友谊，害怕孤独，有些孩子是因为搬家转学到新环境没有朋友，而与一些“边缘孩童”为伍的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另外要为孩子寻找和扩展新的健康友谊圈。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">07</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">求同存异法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尊重孩子对世界的看法，并尽量理解他们</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子和成人的看法往往不同，他们会有很多不符合常规的幻想。其实这些正是童心的可爱之处，如果大人认为孩子的想法奇怪而泼冷水，会扼杀他们的想象力和好奇心，也会让他们因为得不到理解而失望。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另一方面，很多时候，纯真的孩子才有客观的看法，敢于说出真理，也就是我们常说的“童言无忌”。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">要结合“声音法则”，鼓励孩子们敢于表达，正面肯定他们的想法。当然，如果一些看法说法脱离实际或者会引起麻烦，也要耐心地解释。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">思想和思维方式不成熟的孩子们，往往还无法进行多方位思维，而只会延续自己的思路，因此对事物考虑不周全。家长要尽可能理解少儿思维的特点，可以采用把复杂事物分解简化的方法，分期分批地向他们解释或征求他们的意见。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">凡是与孩子自己有关的事情，例如搬家转学、选课外活动、参加考试比赛等，一定要先于孩子商量解释，哪怕不能完全遵循孩子的意见，也要让他们觉得家长是征求了他们的看法的。不然的话，家长的好心很可能没有好报。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">08</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">慎用惩罚法则</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">单纯的惩罚，尤其体罚，是非常负面和拙劣的教育方式，也是不文明的，从小被暴力处罚的孩子，很多长大之后也会有暴力倾向。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">因此不提倡使用惩罚法。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">但不是不可以批评孩子，也可以采用适当的方式做些处罚。前提是，必须要让孩子认识到做错了事，甘愿接受处罚，以便下不为例。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">惩罚方式也要合理，可以采取不让他们做喜欢的事情，比如可以罚其几天不许看电视上网玩游戏。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另外，因为连孩子们都知道惩罚是负面的，千万不要把一些应该做的正面事情当作处罚。比如，罚孩子劳动，会让他们认为劳动是坏事从而产生厌恶情绪。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">09</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">后果法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">让孩子了解其行为可能产生的后果</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有时候，孩子惹了什么麻烦或想做什么标新立异的事情，连成人都没搞清楚其后果和危害，就对孩子横加指责或阻止，这当然无法服人。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">若要教育得孩子心服口服，家长、老师等成年人首先要周密思考每件事的前因后果，然后好好与孩子谈谈，可以从后果的好坏开始，反过来解说该不该这样做，晓之以理，孩子会明白的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实后果也不都是负面的。成年人的阅历比少儿丰富，应该更具有预见性。比如在指导孩子选择兴趣专长或申报学校时，家长可以对前景作些调查，并根据孩子特点鼓励其往哪方面发展。然而，如果没经过自己头脑分析思考，仅仅随大流赶时髦人云亦云，不是有效的后果分析法，往往会耽误孩子。</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">10</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">结构法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">教孩子从小了解道德和法律的界限</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">教育孩子做到这点并不太难，法制教育融汇在社会生活和学校教育之中，孩子们从小就受到全方位熏陶，心中都有一道道德底线和法制底线，还往往会反过来影响家长。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果不能以身作则为孩子树立遵纪守法的榜样，那么孩子也会目无权威，表现得无法无天无规矩。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">曾经有位家长抱怨其上高中的女儿成为逃学逃家的“问题少女”，当我听到这位家长当着孩子的面炫耀自己在旅行中如何把违禁物品带出带进等“光辉业绩”，就不奇怪为何她的孩子会蔑视校规。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">11</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">二十米法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">这个“二十米”是个象征，说的是要注重从小培养孩子的独立性，给孩子留出心理空间。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长不必处处围着孩子转，你觉得是关心照顾他们，孩子们却觉得家长控制得太严；也应允许孩子保有自己的隐私，有自己的主动权和决定权。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，家长还是要在二十米之外注视着并随时准备切入，而不能跑到二百米或二百里之外撒手不管。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长对孩子的管理管教，应该注重大的方面，尤其要根据孩子的年龄。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如，年幼的孩子生活学业上或许需要比较具体细致的指导，但也要适当给他们机会锻炼独立性。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">而进入青春期的孩子则最烦家长事无巨细的询问唠叨，这个年龄的孩子不爱搭理人，但并不代表他们没听见家长的话。因此，家长不要没完没了地重复一番话直到他们反应为止，这会引起孩子的反感。可以事先告诉孩子，无论好事坏事只说一遍，如果你不听耽误了，是你自己的责任。与其成为被烦的唠叨家长，不如豁出去让他们耽误一两次而换取教训。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">12</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">四W法则</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">任何时候都要了解：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子跟谁在一起（who）</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">在什么地方（where）</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">在干什么（what）</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">在什么时候回家（when）</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有些家长看起来对孩子操心管制很多，可到时候却不知道孩子的这些Ｗ。其实，只有上面所有各条法则都做得差不多了，孩子才肯对家长说真话，家长也才能更好的了解到这些Ｗ。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">还有些家长舍得送孩子去寄宿学校，除了学业考虑，还觉得管理严格的私立学校能给孩子较好的成长环境。那么，有了可靠的学校来管教孩子，是否家长就不用操心这些Ｗ了？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实，教育培养孩子的过程，也是家长学习成长的过程，过早让孩子离家寄宿，家长自然会失去这样一段虽然辛苦却非常有意思的，和孩子共同成长的时间。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另外，在网络时代成长的孩子们，已经离不开网络交往，家长同样要关注网络世界的这些Ｗ。孩子不是不可以结交网友，但不可瞒着家长，尤其不能背着家长与网友见面。家长则不要武断禁止孩子以不同方式结交朋友，而要试图了解这些朋友。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">而且，家长自己也要做出榜样，因公因私外出时都要及时通报家里人这些Ｗ，这样做也会让孩子感到，告诉家人这些Ｗ是义不容辞的。</span></section><section style="letter-spacing: 0.544px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 15px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(127, 127, 127); font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 12.6316px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-indent: 34px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">- END -</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; 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