自卑的孩子，往往有这4种表现，家长一定要注意！
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">每一位父母，都希望自己的孩子，能够成龙成凤；<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">那么，孩子如何才能成人，进而成功呢？</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">杰克·霍吉曾在《习惯的力量》说道：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“思想决定行为，行为决定习惯，习惯决定性格，性格决定命运。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">一个人的成就，除了和他本身的能力有关，还和他的性格，有很大的关系。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 400px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">一个人拥有怎样的性格，就会过怎样的人生。</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">自信的孩子，往往积极、乐观，内心具有超强的自驱力，因而更容易取得成功；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">而自卑的孩子，往往活得太累、太辛苦，难以立足于社会。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">自卑的孩子，就像永远都不被照到的阴暗，低到了尘埃里。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">自卑的性格，将影响孩子的一生。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">心理学家提醒：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">有这4种表现的孩子，往往很自卑，家长一定要注意了↓↓↓</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;white-space: normal;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;text-align: center;widows: 1;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;width: 402px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; 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max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">1</p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: rotate(-45deg);"><section style="margin-top: 0.4em; margin-left: 2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.68em; line-height: 0; border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" style="vertical-align:top;" viewBox="0 0 1 1"></svg></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(250, 25, 25);">讨好型的孩子</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">我们经常会听到，当父母夸孩子的时候，总是喜欢用“听话”、“懂事”等形容词；<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">反之，如果对孩子不满，就会冠之以“不听话”、“不懂事”，天天气我等。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">其实，过于听话的孩子，也就是我们俗称的讨好型人格，往往没有自我。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这样的孩子，被大人的情绪所控制，他们没有，也不敢有主见；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">在懂事、讨好别人之下，孩子们不经意间做出了自我牺牲。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">讨好型人格的孩子，委屈自己，方便别人；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">他们的童年记忆里，有很多委屈和迁就；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这样的孩子，太让人心疼。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;white-space: normal;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;text-align: center;widows: 1;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;width: 402px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;height: 2px !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 2px !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">在《请回答1988》中，有这样一句台词：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);">懂事的孩子，只是不撒娇罢了；</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);">只是适应了环境，做懂事的孩子；</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);">适应了，别人错把他当成大人的眼神。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">讨好别人，看似善良大度，但其中隐藏的，却是渗到骨子里的自卑。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">天才作家蒋方舟，曾被众多家长视为“别人家的孩子。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">她7岁会作文，9岁就出书，18岁被清华大学破格录取，22岁当上杂志副主编。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">然而，就是很专业那个一个年少成名的才女，在某综艺节目上，却自爆自己是个讨好型人格的人。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">蒋方舟坦言：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“日常相处中，我不会表达自己的不满或展示自己的愤怒，即使我已经很不愉快了 ，我也会忍着。我太在乎别人的评价了。”</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">对此，她举了一些例子：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">穿绿色衣服是因为爸爸喜欢，学习考高分是为了让爸妈开心。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">高中选理科是因为班主任是学理科的，他说“学好数理化，走遍天下都不怕。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 400px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">实际上，她自己并不喜欢理科；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">后来，她想读文科，又害怕老师和同学的侧目。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">工作后，即使看起来很体面，但她认为，这些都是父母想要的。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">她如果说自己要辞职，又担心父母会生气。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">后来，蒋方舟足足花了一年时间，去摆脱自己的讨好型人格。</p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;width: 429px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">讨好型人格的孩子，表面看似乖巧听话，内心却极不快乐。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">所以，如果你的孩子非常听话，几乎从不顶嘴，那你应该注意了。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">我们的孩子，不应该由于自卑，害怕家长，而显得很听话；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">我们的孩子，应该发于内心，积于教养，散发出懂事的气质。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">孩子懂不懂事，很多时候是一种慢慢领悟的过程；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">对此，家长应该正确引导，而不是强制性命令。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.9em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; overflow: hidden; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.5em; margin-left: 0.25em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.76em; height: 0.5em; line-height: 0; border-right: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250); border-left: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250); transform: skew(-45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 0.5em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.8em; height: 1.8em; line-height: 0; background-color: rgb(93, 208, 230);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-top: -0.88em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.2em; height: 1.2em; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.2em; font-size: 21px; background-color: rgb(106, 226, 250);"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">2</p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: rotate(-45deg);"><section style="margin-top: 0.4em; margin-left: 2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.68em; line-height: 0; border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" style="vertical-align:top;" viewBox="0 0 1 1"></svg></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(250, 25, 25);">格外胆小、害羞的孩子</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">如果，孩子经常说：“我不行、我不敢、我不会...”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">见人不敢打招呼、埋着头，上课从不主动发言，不主动交朋友，经常脸红低头......</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">孩子胆小害羞，很有可能就是自卑的表现。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">如果这个时候，家长还没有发现孩子的自卑，反而用比较的方法，逼孩子变得大胆，<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify;">比如：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><section style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-width: 0px 0px 0px 3px; border-style: solid; width: 657px; border-right-color: rgb(249, 110, 87); border-left-color: rgb(249, 110, 87); display: inline-block;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 2;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">你看XX就讲的很好，你跟他学学....</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">你怎么这么不争气，胆子那么小，真是让人头疼.....</p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这有什么不会的，吓成这个样子，至于嘛....</p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">那么，这样的语言，反而会更加打击孩子的弱小心灵，让孩子更加自卑。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这个时候，我们应该给孩子更多的陪伴与鼓励，告诉孩子，害羞是正常的性格表现；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">在孩子接受自己的性格之后，家长可以和孩子一起多进行一些亲子活动，一起跑步，一起爬山，主动表达自己，让孩子敞开心扉。</p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.9em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; overflow: hidden; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.5em; margin-left: 0.25em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.76em; height: 0.5em; line-height: 0; border-right: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250); border-left: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250); transform: skew(-45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 0.5em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.8em; height: 1.8em; line-height: 0; background-color: rgb(93, 208, 230);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-top: -0.88em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.2em; height: 1.2em; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.2em; font-size: 21px; background-color: rgb(106, 226, 250);"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">3</p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: rotate(-45deg);"><section style="margin-top: 0.4em; margin-left: 2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.68em; line-height: 0; border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" style="vertical-align:top;" viewBox="0 0 1 1"></svg></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(250, 25, 25);">孩子贬低、妒嫉他人</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">莎士比亚曾说过：</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">“你要留心嫉妒啊，那是一个绿眼的妖怪！”</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">嫉妒别人，也是一种自卑。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">自卑的孩子，往往不会喜欢比他优秀的人。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">看到网上一个故事：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">李女士给女儿报了一个舞蹈班，她觉得，这样可以让孩子主动融入到团体当中。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">女儿似乎也没有让她失望。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">报班后，女儿一直努力地在练习，回到家后还经常给李女士示范，这让她很欣慰。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">后来，舞蹈班老师给李女士打电话说，想让女儿去参加舞蹈比赛，好好表现自己。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">她便带着女儿去了。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">比赛后，李女士的女儿获得了第二名；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">离开时，碰巧在后台遇到了拿第一名的小女孩，对方热情地给她们打招呼，但李女士的女儿却爱答不理的，李女士只好找借口说孩子不太舒服，着急走了。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">后来，李女士问女儿为什么？</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">女儿有些不高兴地说：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“她跳舞比我好，我一点也不喜欢她。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">李女士听到这个解释，觉得哭笑不得，但又不知该怎么劝导孩子。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;width: 458px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">俗话说：“人外有人，天外有天。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这个世界上，优秀的孩子有很多；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">我们的孩子，在成长的过程中，几乎总是会遇到挑战。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">与其让孩子在妒忌中承受着自卑，不如教会孩子放低心态，教孩子“以人为师”。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">如此，孩子不仅能在与他人的交往中，不断提升自己；</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">而且，打开心扉的孩子，还能交到不少的朋友，让孩子的人生路，走得更宽敞。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.9em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; overflow: hidden; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.5em; margin-left: 0.25em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.76em; height: 0.5em; line-height: 0; border-right: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250); border-left: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250); transform: skew(-45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 0.5em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.8em; height: 1.8em; line-height: 0; background-color: rgb(93, 208, 230);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-top: -0.88em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.2em; height: 1.2em; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 1.2em; font-size: 21px; background-color: rgb(106, 226, 250);"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">4</p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: rotate(-45deg);"><section style="margin-top: 0.4em; margin-left: 2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.68em; line-height: 0; border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(106, 226, 250);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 0px; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" style="vertical-align:top;" viewBox="0 0 1 1"></svg></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(250, 25, 25);">过分争强好胜的孩子</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">有心理学家发现：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“自卑感强的孩子，总感到自己不如别人；但另一方面，又非常希望自己能有优秀的表现。”</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">也就是说：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">自卑儿童尽管自感“低人一等”，但往往又会反常地比正常孩子更追求家长和教师的表扬，而且可能采用不诚实、不适当的方式，如弄虚作假、考试作弊等。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">争强好胜不是错，然而，由于自卑而争强好胜，只是为了证明自己，这样的孩子，往往活得太累。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">极度自负的孩子，往往极度自卑。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">著名作家三毛，就是一个这样的人。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">作为文坛才华横溢的作家，三毛可谓是意气风发。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">然而，三毛的父亲却对她十分苛责，也不喜欢她的作品。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">对此，三毛承认，这是她心中的死结。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">小时候，父亲虽然从没打过她，但每次看她时，都会叹气。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">这让她天天觉得：<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“你这个让父亲伤心的孩子，是有罪的。”</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">长大后，三毛的文章，父亲也不喜欢。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">后来，她在《一生的战役》中写道：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“这一生，丈夫欣赏我，朋友欣赏我，手足欣赏我，都解不开我心里那个死结。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">对我来说，一生的悲哀，并不是要赚得全世界，而是要请你欣赏我。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">等你这一句话，等了一生一世，只等你——我的父亲，亲口说出来，肯定了我在这个家庭里一辈子消除不掉的自卑和心虚。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">她一生叛逆与痛苦的根源，都是为了与父亲抗争，为赢得父亲的赞赏。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;vertical-align: middle;width: 502px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">作为家长，我们不能只看到卷子和分数，更应该看到孩子内心的呐喊和彷徨。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">学会接纳孩子的平凡和不完美，是我们仍需要继续努力的功课，也是作为父母的必要修养。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">给孩子阳光般的爱吧，如此，孩子才能驱散内心的自卑和怯懦，大胆地迎接人生的芳华。</p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 638px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1;"><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">阿德勒曾说：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“每个人都有或多或少的自卑感。”</strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">孩子自卑不可怕，可怕的是孩子自卑后，依然得不到正确的对待。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">有心理学研究表明：</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">“人的性格形成除了先天性因素，也有后天环境的影响，尤其是原生家庭的影响更加深远。”</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;">愿每个父母，都能以和谐的家庭氛围、正确的教育方式，引导孩子走向阳光与自信！</p><p style="margin-bottom: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; widows: 1; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 0; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 400px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: 微软雅黑; white-space: pre-wrap; widows: 1; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;">Ps：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 122, 170); font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: pre-wrap; widows: 1; line-height: 25.6px; font-size: 12px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">图文源自网络，如有侵权，请联系小编。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p>转载声明：本文转载自「心灵成长家园」，搜索「xinling_JY」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/F4Y0p94vaJLxL3pu9AHt9g">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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