父母如何协助青春期孩子的自我成长
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="background-color: rgb(244, 236, 237);box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 16px;"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="margin: -35px 0% 10px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="padding: 3px;display: inline-block;border-bottom: 5px solid rgb(251, 152, 144);font-size: 32px;color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 4px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">父母如何协助</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: 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wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;line-height: 1.5;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin-bottom: 8px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin-bottom: 8px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 15px;">我们育儿的目的是否只是让孩子完成父母的心愿呢？孩子真正需要的是什么呢？</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 8px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 8px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">让我们一起听听与青春期孩子有丰富交流经验的赵明老师从下面两个方面谈父母协助孩子自我成长的方法：<br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 8px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 8px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(90, 90, 90);"><strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">1.亲子之间如何做到连接</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(90, 90, 90);"><strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">2.父母如何帮助孩子分离</span></strong></span></p></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><section>https://res.wx.qq.com/voice/getvoice?mediaid=MzA4MDQ0MTMxNV8yNjU0NjEzNDI0智慧家长锦囊第二期：父母如何协助青春期孩子的自我成长</section></section><section style="transform-origin: center center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 15px 0% 20px;text-align: center;justify-content: center;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.5em;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 70%;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.12);height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 10px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.5;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(90, 90, 90);">智慧家长锦囊系列家长微课：</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">父母如何协助青春期孩子的自我成长</strong></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(90, 90, 90);">主讲人：赵明老师</span></p></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 90%;vertical-align: top;height: auto;border-color: rgb(243, 156, 156);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify;padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="text-align: left; text-indent: 2em; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="text-indent: 2em;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">谈到育儿，我想先请家长们思考一下<span style="text-indent: 2em;color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">我们养育孩子的目的是什么？</strong></span><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="text-indent: 2em;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="text-indent: 2em;color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">也许你会想到“光宗耀祖、传宗接代、养儿防老”等等，这些传统观念无可厚非，但是，当你再经过深入的思考，我们的育儿目的，<span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">是否只是让孩子完成父母自己的心愿呢？</strong></span></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">作为父母，大家<span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">有认真思考过孩子需要什么吗？</strong></span></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">著名的</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">马斯洛需求层次理论</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">，将人的需求从低到高依次分为生理需求、安全需求、社交需求、尊重需求和自我实现的需求。很显然，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">现在的孩子需要的更多是社交、被尊重和自我实现</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">他们一方面渴望获得独立、自我成长和自我实现、渴望父母重新审视自己，把自己当成大人看待，另一方面由于儿童的心理模式被打破，成熟的心理模式尚未完全建立，他们又非常依赖父母，不想长大，矛盾和冲突常常交织在一起。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">所以，父母如何协助青春期孩子的自我成长，重点在于一方面</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母如何和孩子连接</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">，让孩子像一颗不断茁壮成长的大树更深地扎根于大地；另一方面是</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母如何与孩子分离</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">，助力孩子像雄鹰一样自由飞向更广阔的蓝天。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; text-indent: 2em; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="text-align: left; text-indent: 2em; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;border-color: rgb(243, 156, 156);border-width: 0px 0px 2px;border-style: solid;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 5px;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="font-size: 20px;color: rgb(42, 124, 107);text-align: center;letter-spacing: 2px;line-height: 2;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">一、亲子之间如何做到连接？</strong></span></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="transform: scale(0.8);-webkit-transform: scale(0.8);-moz-transform: scale(0.8);-o-transform: scale(0.8);transform-origin: center center;-webkit-transform-origin: center center;-moz-transform-origin: center center;-o-transform-origin: center center;margin: -4px -5px;max-width: unset !important;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: center;justify-content: center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="font-size: 18px;color: rgb(42, 124, 107);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">做到用“心”响应<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">而不是用“脑”反应</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 90%;vertical-align: top;height: auto;border-color: rgb(243, 156, 156);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;line-height: 1.5;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">当父母和孩子心有灵犀，同频共振时，父母就能真正读懂孩子内心的诉求，此时此刻如实的回应孩子就是用“心”响应。换句话说，<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">亲子之间首先要有连接，方能沟通，</span></strong>否则等于缘木求鱼。</p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">在现实生活中，很多父母往往根据自己过往的经验、喜好、感受和自己曾经学习到的理论和方法，希望孩子成长成这样，认为孩子就应该那样，实际上<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">他们并不了解孩子当下的真实状态和真正诉求。</span></strong>反之，<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">孩子也不理解父母言行背后的慈爱和用心。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">试想，当父母和孩子之间不能产生真正的连接，父母怎么教育孩子，怎么和孩子沟通？这个时候父母管得越多错得越多，而孩子感受到的是来自父母无休止的压力。有句话是这样说的：有作用力就一定有反作用<span style="box-sizing: border-box;">力。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">父母如何才能做到用“心”响应，而不是用“脑”反应呢？</strong></span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></section></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1.学习观察呼吸</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;line-height: 1.5;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">怎样观察呼吸：</span><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">请睁开眼睛，自然的呼吸，把“心”安住在呼吸上，天真、好奇的去观看气息进来、出去、进来、出去……</strong></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">观察呼吸的目的，是为了帮助父母时刻保持清晰明了，不被瞬间所产生的各种心理活动影响，继而再产生一大堆情绪和感受，不知不觉被情绪控制而不自知，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">最终变成在处理自己的情绪而不是孩子的问题</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">比如父母被告知，孩子在学校上课玩游戏被老师抓住，要求请家长。有的父母马上开始产生各种心理活动，比如“被老师叫去我感觉好没面子，都是因为你。”</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">又或者“我辛辛苦苦工作都是为了你，你太让我失望了！” 这时候父母会被羞愧、愤怒、失望等各种情绪所控制而不能客观思考。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">通过练习观察呼吸，父母就能够</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">把自己瞬间的反应变成慢动作</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">在内心拓展出一个反思和内省的空间</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，逐渐变得清晰明了，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">看清事情的全貌并找到解决方法</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，这个时候转化就开始发生了。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">就像上面的例子，在观察呼吸的过程中，父母可能就会自嘲：“原来我是为了自己的面子而生气啊！”“其实为了孩子我是心甘情愿的。”。经过自嘲，父母就会放松下来。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">有一次我做家庭治疗，父母和孩子都来了，当父母在不断陈述孩子的各种症状，孩子在一旁沉默不语时，我邀请父母和孩子先观察三分钟呼吸。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">三分钟结束后，妈妈说：“我看到自己太焦虑了”。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">爸爸说：“我发现自己的认知到了天花板，我被一些所谓的教条带偏了，其实我的女儿挺好的。”</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子在一旁听到父母的话以后，说了一句：“我也想做得更好啊。”</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以，我建议在生活中，当父母在和自己青春期孩子沟通之前，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">先观察呼吸1~3分钟</span></strong><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">，</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">让自己慢下来，从头脑认知回到内心，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">多用心，少说话，</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">即使要说，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">清楚的听见自己对孩子说的每一句话，然后再清楚的听见孩子对自己说的每一句话</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，然后</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">用心“响应”</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">有一点很重要，父母平时有时间要经常练习观察呼吸，目的是锻炼自己清晰明了的能力，否则在关键时候，清晰明了的能力是用不出来的。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></section></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2.就事论事</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;line-height: 1.5;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">就事论事，指</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母切忌把孩子当下发生的一件事情，通过逻辑推理无限放大，导致事情本身无法被解决。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">比如说，孩子一次考试没考好，有的父母就开始焦虑，瞬间产生一系列心理活动：“你为什么不努力把学习搞好？现在社会竞争压力这么大，我们辛辛苦苦供你读书，不图你大富大贵，只图你未来有点出息。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">你倒好！今天贪玩，不努力，明天怎么办？你考不上好大学，找不到好工作，以后连个房子都买不起，怎么在大城市生活啊？”</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子考试没考好，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">这是再正常普通不过的事情，根本无需被解决</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">——人生本来就是这么无常，一次考试成绩如何，跟这个人的未来幸福与否，其实并没有关系。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">而父母一旦把事情扩大为“这次考试不好就等于高考也考不好，整个人就是个失败的、没出息的人”，那么</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">这个事情也没有任何解决的希望了</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以，孩子一旦出现问题，最怕父母把过去的、未来的，再加上问题以外的因素综合起来，叠加起来，再进行逻辑推理，环环相扣，最终得出结论，孩子当下的问题是不能改变的，于是开始陷入种种恐惧和焦虑。很多父母始终都没有意识到，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">自己一直被自己所编织的一个幻想所控制。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母始终要以发展的眼光看待孩子的问题</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，因为孩子生命的每一个当下都是鲜活流动的，殊不知我们只能把控当下，因为当下已经包含了过去，并决定未来，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">未来正因为不可知，不可预见，才具有一切的可能性。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"></span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">父母这种全新的看待自己孩子的“生命观”，将帮助孩子恢复他与生俱来的生命活力，而</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">这种生机勃勃的活力才是孩子解决自己成长过程中所有问题的根本。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></section></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3.化繁为简</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;line-height: 1.5;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">在咨询的过程中，我经常遇到这样的父母，他们会罗列出孩子一箩筐的问题，比如说：情绪问题、学习问题，人际问题、行为习惯问题等等，希望咨询师都能帮助他解决。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">显然对一大堆“问题”的命名本身，已经足以让父母开始各种焦虑担心了。你会观察到，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母寻求心理咨询，不是真的在解决问题本身，而是在解决问题所引起的各种情绪和感受。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">同样的，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母和孩子沟通，也是在处理自己的情绪</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，而这种情绪和感受一旦被孩子捕捉到了，孩子会怎样的反应呢？</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">孩子在父母心里的样子，孩子是能感受到的；更可怕的是，孩子在父母心中的样子会成为孩子自己心中的标签，孩子会无意识的去实现这个部分，认为自己就是一个糟糕的、没用的人，自暴自弃，放弃努力。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">“化繁为简”就是</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母看到什么问题就解决什么问题</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，不要奢望打包解决，</span><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">往往一个小的问题就是很好的切入口，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">解决了一个问题，所有的问题都会迎刃而解。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">如果亲子之间，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">没有所谓的“问题”，也没有所谓的“叛逆”</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，只是单纯简单的交流，我相信孩子内在的生命力会自然的流淌。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-align: justify;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section><p><br></p></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4.自己总结出来的方法才有用</strong></span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;line-height: 1.5;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">当亲子关系出现问题，很多父母希望马上</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">找到一个立竿见影的方法</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，其实</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">这背后是父母的焦虑和对孩子的不信任</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">。</span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">每个理论和方法在产生的时候都是有效的，但要因人而异，不能照搬，特殊情况特殊处理。因为所有的理论和方法都是套路，是死的，但孩子是鲜活的，青春期的孩子更是如此，使用的时候，可能你这次对了，下次又错了，每一个当下都在瞬息万变。</span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">亲子关系中，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">很多父母都是只“教”不“育”</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，因为“教人”相对简单容易，每个父母都有大把的经验、方法和理论，</span><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">但</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">“育人”是需要用“心”的</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，很多父母自己都很少和自己的心在一起。所以，孩子的“空心病”，都是“教”出来的，而不是“育”出来的。</span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">父母通过观察呼吸，从头脑认知回到心的功能，清晰明了，方法自然了然于心。</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母自己用心总结出来的方法才真正适合自己的孩子</span></strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">，其实这是父母对每一个独一无二生命的敬畏之心。</span></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;border-color: rgb(243, 156, 156);border-width: 0px 0px 2px;border-style: solid;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="font-size: 20px;color: rgb(42, 124, 107);text-align: center;letter-spacing: 2px;line-height: 2;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">二、父母如何帮助孩子分离</strong></p></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="transform: scale(0.8);-webkit-transform: scale(0.8);-moz-transform: scale(0.8);-o-transform: scale(0.8);transform-origin: center center;-webkit-transform-origin: center center;-moz-transform-origin: center center;-o-transform-origin: center center;margin: -4px -5px;max-width: unset !important;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: -10px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 90%;vertical-align: top;height: auto;border-color: rgb(243, 156, 156);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify;padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="text-align: left; text-indent: 2em; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">一只小鹰出生后六七天，母鹰为了防止它学会爬行，就会对它进行残酷的训练，让它生命的第一反应就是飞翔。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">等小鹰能飞起来了，母鹰就会折断它们翅膀中大部分骨骼，然后把小鹰从高处推下去，小鹰虽然因折断了翅膀而浑身剧痛，但它必须挣扎着飞翔。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">挣扎使它们的翅膀得到了供血，在短时间内便可痊愈，而痊愈后的翅膀将坚硬如铁，更具力量。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">以人类的认知，母鹰太残忍，但能够飞翔才是鹰之所以成为鹰的全部意义，通过培养小鹰飞翔的能力，母鹰帮助孩子与自己分离，这是遵循生命的规律，依道而行。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">作为父母如何帮助孩子与自己分离？</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">很简单，</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">培养孩子独立的能力</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">，就像母鹰锻炼小鹰飞翔的能力。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">很多父母认为，知识就一定等于能力，这是一种错误的观点。</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">知识会产生能力，但知识不等于能力。</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">这里所说的“能力”是指</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">每一个生命本自具足的生生不息的功能。</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">能力促进分离，分离又促进了能力的增强。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">父母如何培养孩子独立的能力？</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">重点在培养孩子跟当下现实连接的能力。</span></strong></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">青春期孩子的内在世界比较动荡和敏感，如果缺乏和现实产生连接，不是“刻舟求剑”担心过去，就是“杞人忧天”忧心未来，容易杯弓蛇影、画地为牢，生命功能停滞不前。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">培养孩子跟当下现实连接</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">，亲力亲为，脚踏实地、一步一个脚印的去做事情，就是一种生命力的锚定，在具体做每一件事情的过程中，孩子会不断产生一种能力和创造力，新的生命体验就会诞生，就像小鹰每一次扑腾稚嫩的翅膀，那是在为飞翔而做的准备。</span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box; text-indent: 0em; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">如何培养孩子跟当下现实连接的能力？</span></strong></p><p style="text-align: left; text-indent: 2em; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1.观察呼吸</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 0%;margin-bottom: 20px;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">（具体方法前面已经讲过了）</span></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">我辅导的中学生，因学习压力而引发的焦虑非常普遍，不是在懊悔自己过去没做好，就是在担心未来考不好。</span></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">因为</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">观察呼吸带来的清晰明了会帮助孩子觉察自己正在胡思乱想</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">，并通过不断觉察而非评判</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">让自己慢慢回到当下做自己应该做的事情</span></strong><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">。</span></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);box-sizing: border-box;">同样的，当孩子内心产生冲突的时候，观察呼吸带来一种魄力和定力，让孩子敢于做出选择并为自己的选择负责，而不陷入纠结。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="margin: 10px 0%;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.24);min-width: 10%;max-width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 6px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 3px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2.运动与劳动</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);padding-right: 12px;padding-left: 12px;letter-spacing: 2px;text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">运动和劳动促进孩子身心合一，手到心到，减少胡思乱想的机会，减少生命的内耗，增强主动性和创造性。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">同样的，运动和劳动是每一个孩子与生俱来的一种能力，在运动和劳动的过程中，孩子容易获得满足感和喜悦感，生命的功能就得到确定和肯定，并形成一种良性循环。<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">很多孩子的问题出在动得太少，想得太多</span></strong>。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">无论是运动和劳动，孩子的身体都在动，都在变化，身心是合一的，身体的改变也会带来内心的改变。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;">通过观察呼吸、运动和劳动，培养孩子跟当下现实连接的能力，就是恢复孩子生命的功能，让孩子慢慢获得独立的能力。在这里，<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;">父母最好的教育就是“言传身教”，首先自己做到，才能协助孩子做到。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;text-indent: 0em;line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 90%;vertical-align: top;height: auto;border-color: rgb(243, 156, 156);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin: 20px 0% 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;justify-content: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 30%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: stretch;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.12);box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 10px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;">如人饮水</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;">冷暖自知</span></strong></p></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 30%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;padding-right: 5px;align-self: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 30%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;padding-left: 5px;align-self: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 100%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin: 15px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 90%;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.12);height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 10px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 2px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">有一句话讲得好：“如人饮水，冷暖自知。”</span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">就像喝一杯水，父母觉得烫，可能孩子觉得已经凉了。作为父母我们</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">不能替代孩子喝每一杯水</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">，但是</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">可以协助孩子自己喝好每一杯水</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">，协助孩子做自己生命的主人。</span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">愿每一位父母都是青春期麦田里的守望者，远远看着，在孩子需要时候，伸出双手，告诉孩子：爸爸妈妈，在。 </span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left;text-indent: 2em;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">最后，送给父母们一首歌——摇滚歌手汪峰的代表作《怒放的生命》，让我们跟随着音乐去追忆曾经属于我们的青春，属于我们自己怒放的生命，因为生命与生命之间是共通的，这样，我们就可以和孩子</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">真正做到无理共情，心有灵犀</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;box-sizing: border-box;">了。</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin: 15px 0% 20px;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: normal;"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 90%;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(243, 156, 156, 0.12);height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin: 10px 0%;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(243, 156, 156);letter-spacing: 2px;line-height: 1.8;padding-right: 20px;padding-left: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">曾经多少次跌倒在路上</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">曾经多少次折断过翅膀</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">如今我已不再感到彷徨</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">我想超越这平凡的生活</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">我想要怒放的生命</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">就像飞翔在辽阔天空</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">就像穿行在无边的旷野</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">拥有挣脱一切的力量</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">曾经多少次失去了方向</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">曾经多少次扑灭了梦想</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">如今我已不再感到迷茫</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">我要我的生命得到解放</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">我想要怒放的生命</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">就像矗立在彩虹之颠</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">就像穿行璀璨的星河</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 15px;">拥有超越平凡的力量</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: 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