“我觉得我好难受，有谁可以帮我吗？”——青春期孩子的极端行为预防
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background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春期的孩子的心理是非常纤细而敏感的，在之前的文章中也提到过青春期孩子的阶段特点，他们既幼稚又成熟，身心都处在激烈动荡的时刻，在这个特殊的时刻，会有许许多多的孩子有着各种各样的身心烦恼。</span></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -15px; margin-left: 19px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 658px; visibility: visible;"><section data-css="vertical-align: inherit; width: 100%;" data-role="autocrop" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding-bottom: 438.667px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;width: 658px;overflow: hidden;height: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" 1fhorfydmc2026dicumxjfy4iybgqege3bxyukn3ytnv5p2rc9c7w01ne4dakjia1cexthtzouiaya0sqdxz80tqg="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;opacity: 0;width: 658px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="110720" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 20px 25px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; background-color: rgb(243, 253, 244);"><section style="margin-top: 25px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: flex-end; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1.5px; color: rgb(49, 171, 66); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">敏感的</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 6px; margin-left: 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 20px; flex-shrink: 0;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;display: block;width: 20px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1.5px; color: rgb(49, 171, 66); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">内心</strong></span></section></section><section data-autoskip="1" style="margin-top: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 1.5px; background: transparent; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他们对情绪敏感，容易被各种情绪所困扰——尤其一些负面情绪，比如来自家庭的几句重话、学校的训斥、又或者是同龄人的嘲笑，加上心理活动的闭锁性（不愿让他人知道自己的小秘密），</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他们很容易在自我的世界钻牛角尖，在没有正常的引导与疏解下，他们很容易走入极端，做出一些难以挽回的举动。</span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="103248" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-id="103108" data-tools="135编辑器" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; 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outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="margin-left: 12px; padding: 10px 20px 10px 70px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-radius: 8px 8px 8px 20px; background-color: rgb(255, 218, 63); line-height: 1.75em; color: rgb(124, 92, 0);"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我是不是很笨，其他同学好像都学懂了，只有我不会<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">......</span></span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这些言语并不会安慰到孩子，即使是放在成年人身上，需求安慰者也不会觉得这是安慰，只会让孩子知道：啊，这个人并不愿意也不能帮我。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">从而将自己的内心封闭起来。有些话语还会将错归结于孩子自己身上，进一步给孩子造成伤害。</span></section><p style="margin-top: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; vertical-align: inherit; width: 637px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;width: 637px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">于是他们想到了一个避讳又极端的逃避方式，也许他们认为他们对于这些极端行为有着足够多的认知，也知道这种方式的后果，但是他们无法判断自己能否承受这种后果，也不清楚此时也许是情绪的冲动。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: left; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1.5px; color: rgb(49, 171, 66); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="110720" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 5px 20px 25px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section hm_fix="378:499" style="margin-top: 25px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: flex-end; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如何预防孩子</strong></section><section style="margin-right: 6px; margin-left: 6px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 20px; flex-shrink: 0;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;display: block;width: 20px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">的极端行为倾向</strong></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="110647" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: flex-start; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 25px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;display: block;width: 25px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="padding-bottom: 3px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(0, 176, 80); border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 176, 80); text-align: left;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">正确的生死观</strong></section></section><section data-autoskip="1" style="padding-top: 15px; padding-bottom: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 1.5px; background: transparent; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">让孩子正确地认识生与死。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大多数孩子小时候对于生死是有认知的，但是他们的认知很模糊，有些认为死亡就是消失、就是睡觉。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在他们的概念里，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">死亡并不是一件严肃的事，所以这种印象就会停留在他们的潜意识里，</strong>即使随着年龄的成长、认知的丰富也<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无法摆脱对死亡的轻视。</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">育儿专家张雪峰说过这样一段话：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(235, 146, 30); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;">生命教育应当尽早地进行，让孩子正确地直面死亡，懂得生死的含义之后，才懂得对世间万物的珍惜</span></strong></span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; 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max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“无条件积极关注”</strong>是人文主义心理学派提出来的，它的本意是指咨询者以<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(235, 146, 30); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">积极态度</strong></span>看待来访者，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(235, 146, 30); box-sizing: border-box !important;">不对其作出价值评判</span></strong>，对来访者的言语和行为的积极面、光明面给予有选择的关注，利用其自身的积极因素促使来访者发生积极变化。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对孩子也是同理，去关注孩子，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要一开始就指责他们</strong>，有些家长会抱怨自己的孩子无论出什么事情都不会和家里说，也许有些孩子之前是想说的，但后面被打断与指责了，于是他们选择封闭不说。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对于那些缺乏自尊，或被困难所困扰的孩子，积极关注能够帮助他们全面地认识自己自己和自己处境，看到自己长处和优势，看到光明的一面和未来的希望，从而树立信心，不再压抑。</span></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 637px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: flex-start; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 25px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: inherit;display: block;width: 25px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="padding-bottom: 3px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(0, 176, 80); border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(0, 176, 80); text-align: left;"><strong data-brushtype="text" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">理解与接纳</strong></section></section><section data-autoskip="1" style="padding-top: 15px; padding-bottom: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 1.5px; background: transparent; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这是无条件积极关注的下一步，青春期孩子时常觉得不被理解，会觉得自己孤独，似乎自己与全世界为敌。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这种想法对于成年人来说也许是一种“中二”的想法，但是对于正处于这个时期的孩子来说，是一种确确实实的感受，他们想要被理解。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">美国心理学家詹姆斯</strong>说：<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(235, 146, 30); box-sizing: border-box !important;">人最本质的需要是渴望被肯定。</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子倾诉时以“我理解、我清楚。”认同孩子开始，引导孩子说出苦闷，</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(235, 146, 30); box-sizing: border-box !important;">接纳孩子独特的想法，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: transparent; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">再带他分析原因，引出更好的解决方法。</span></strong></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; 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