孩子每个坏习惯的背后，都是你没看到的需求
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">教育的本质，是父母的自我修行。</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们需要在点点滴滴的生活中，对自己有所觉察，觉察越深，与孩子之间的爱就会越容易流动。</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关系，比任何方法都重要。当然，看见孩子的前提，是看见自己。父母是孩子问题的所在，爱与自由是唯一的答案。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我们自己想象孩子应该是什么样，然后再想象出对付孩子的办法”</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">，这是非常可怕的育儿观。</span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那么，什么是正确的育儿观呢？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实，我想说的是：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">亲子关系比教育方法更重要！</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大家都听过“性格决定命运”，那什么决定性格呢？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">从心理学的角度说，我们童年遭遇的亲子关系，会内化到孩子的心里，成为内在的关系模式，这一整套内在的关系模式就形成了我们的性格，决定了我们的命运。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">母婴依恋关系奠定了孩子的生命底色。</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">童年的关系模式，与我们今天的事业、婚恋、亲子关系，有着丝丝入扣的对应。</span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这么说好像人生是决定论，实际上亲子关系决定的是我们人生的起点。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 241px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 1.75px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible;">孩子需要被看见</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible;"></strong></span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们先说说孩子的</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“存在感”</strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">存在必须在关系中才能产生。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果婴儿对妈妈笑，妈妈没有反应，婴儿就傻掉了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他会想，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我存在吗，妈妈存在吗，这个世界怎么了?”</span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 15px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果婴儿的各种反应得不到妈妈的回应，那婴儿会活在一个感觉里，就是整个世界都是支离破碎的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那么，通常的回应有哪几种，并分别有哪些后果呢？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 重复对方话语中跟情感有关的词</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如说宝宝跟你说，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“妈妈，这个小狗好可爱啊！</span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">”</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); box-sizing: border-box !important;">那妈妈可以回应说，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“妈妈看到了，真可爱！</span></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">”</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这就是重复他说的话。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">重复对方表达出来的情绪或者你感受到的情绪，去确认它，彼此都会很幸福。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 无关反应</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如一个小孩子说“妈妈，我刚才看见了一只狗，好可爱的！”有的妈妈会说：“你作业写了没?”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果孩子在最初和妈妈的沟通中，经常得到无关反应，那么，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">长大后，他就会感觉到跟别人沟通是一种很愚蠢的事情，于是变得冷漠。</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，他也可能会非常聪明，在自闭在自己的世界中的时候，思路很清晰，但他觉得跟别人聊天是很无聊的事情。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 情感逆袭</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“妈妈，这个小狗好可爱啊。”</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“报纸上刚报导一个人因为狂犬病死了！”</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">等等类似这种反情感的话，你们会感觉到你的能量出去了，被活生生地拧回去。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们成年之后，我们不会记得这个愤怒，但这个愤怒一直藏在心里，后来就会通过情感逆转表达出来。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 就是不想回应</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我不知道大家有没有做过一些恶梦，比如自己掉坑里了，或者是遇到其他的危险，就会呼喊“妈妈”，但是妈妈没有回应。这让孩子会感觉<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“要死了，妈都不会来救我”。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你想暂时自己存在自己的世界中，不愿意回应孩子，你可以跟孩子说，</span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我知道你想跟妈妈互动，你的要求很好，但由于妈妈自己的原因，妈妈想自己待一会，这不是你的错。</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">半个小时后，妈妈再陪伴你好吗?"</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 171px !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1px; font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: justify;">从心理学角度分析孩子的行为</strong><strong stle="outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);font-size: 18px;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;text-align: justify;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 孩子吃手指，要不要制止？</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">首先，孩子为什么吃手指，有人研究发现胎儿在肚子的时候，就已经开始吃手指了。婴儿觉得把手举起来，然后还可以放进嘴里，他会非常喜悦，就像发现新大陆一样，是一项壮举。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子在1岁之前，探索世界的工具就是嘴巴，他会把所有的东西放到嘴里去试探。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有的家长很紧张，其实孩子是非常非常小心的，处在全然的觉知当中的，只要他们不被打扰，就不会有什么问题。我们只要保证周边的环境安全卫生，就尽量让孩子们自由探索。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果孩子在1岁之后，ta还要吃手指，那怎么办？</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">答案还是：<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不作为，就让他吃。</strong>有可能是因为口欲期尚未探索够，有可能是通过吃手指弥补对母乳不够的缺憾。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无论什么原因，我们只能深深地允许而不是制止。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有的孩子就是比别的孩子行动得晚，那是因为你的孩子有独特的特点，不要把他纠正成流水线产品，千篇一律，孩子所有的东西都是需要我们呵护的，而不是去改变。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;width: 100%;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 怎样让孩子避免危险？</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); box-sizing: border-box !important;">只有我们体验过了，我们的智力才会发展。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我爸爸对我很好的一点就是，爸爸很少用结论吓唬的方式教育我。我小时候跟他一起钉钉子，刨木头，这些看似危险的动作成了我童年有趣的回忆。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子天然地处在觉知当中，他不会有事没事把自己弄伤了。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如小孩爱玩刀，我们可以跟他一起去摸刀，慢慢地去摸它，慢慢达到伤害的临界状态，让孩子自己去体验这种感觉。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有过刀子体验的孩子，外出时被绳子缠住，他才会寻找类似刀子的尖锐物品去割断绳子，这就是智力发展。而只学习过刀子很危险这个结论的孩子，是没有能力自救的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们只是学到了一些结论，我们的智力是没有发展的，我们发展的是恐惧和制约。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我见过很多00后的小孩，都这么高了，楼梯都不敢下。妈妈时刻处在焦虑当中，孩子觉得探索新世界是件很恐怖的事情，摸索新事物觉得危险，孩子从小学会了恐惧和制约。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">控制就等于扼杀精神生命。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你如果管他吃饭，他觉得吃饭就是痛苦，你如果要管他学习，他觉得学习就是痛苦。我控制你，你的意志就不存在了，存在的就是我的意志。<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你的控制欲伸向哪里，孩子一生就会感受到无穷无尽的痛苦。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;width: 100%;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: auto;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 要不要给孩子定规矩？</span></strong></span></section><section style="max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多家长问我，要不要给孩子定规矩，当时我想的是法律说合同的主体是要有民事行为能力的平等的人，才能定合同。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子不是一个独立的行为人，怎么跟你定合同呢？怎么跟你定一个交换的条件去执行？这是不合理条约。规则的意义就是维护双方的感受。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有的妈妈问我，她的孩子都会刷牙了，还要她帮忙一起刷。我问她和孩子一起刷牙的过程中，你们的感受是什么，她说都很开心啊，我说这有什么问题吗？<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子如果学到遵守规矩等于难受，那他以后怎么自觉遵守这个规则呢？</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果这个规则让孩子很开心，这就是一个很好的结果。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">规则就是这样产生的，两个人的感受都被照顾到，这个时候的规则就等于舒服，当没有人监管的时候，他还是会愿意遵守规则的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 孩子有了坏习惯怎么办？</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一个乖孩子都很可怕，他们一生都在按父母的规矩做事，他们自认为是乖孩子，别人一定要爱他。当他们遇到巨大挫折，再乖也没人爱，乖的逻辑被冲击到崩塌，会发生很可怕的事情。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我有一个朋友，要离婚，他说我过去所有的事情都是父母安排的，我想做一件父母没有安排的事情，那就是离婚，他其实不是没有感情了，就是因为他被压制的太久了。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 12, 0); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">任何控制都会遭遇反弹，不管是多么正确的控制。每一个顽固坏习惯的背后，都是匮乏爱的痛苦呐喊。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(84, 84, 84); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你的孩子存在一些坏习惯，你可以告诉他<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“宝贝，你不管怎么样，都是我的孩子，我知道你的生命有自己的发展规律，我没有能力理解，但是我可以陪伴和看见。</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">”</strong></span></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: 微软雅黑; white-space: pre-wrap; widows: 1; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170); box-sizing: border-box !important;">Ps：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 122, 170); font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: pre-wrap; widows: 1; line-height: 25.6px; font-size: 12px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">图文源自网络，如有侵权，请联系小编。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section>转载声明：本文转载自「心灵成长家园」，搜索「xinling_JY」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/qksVtvCaQK51_U1SlOmRpA">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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