自卑的孩子，往往有这四种表现，家长一定要重视！
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 2;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><section style="margin: 10px 0%; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; justify-content: flex-start;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: auto;min-width: 10%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: center;border-width: 0px;border-top-right-radius: 0px;border-right-style: none;border-right-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);padding-left: 5px;"><section style="text-align: center;justify-content: center;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;width: auto;min-width: 10%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: center;"><section style="transform: rotateZ(45deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section><section style="display: inline-block;width: 24px;height: 24px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 222, 23);border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);"><section style="transform: rotateZ(315deg);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="margin-right: 0%;margin-left: 0%;transform: translate3d(-3px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 24px;"><p><br></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 22px; padding-left: 22px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFangSC-light; color: rgb(104, 130, 164); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">自卑往往是影响孩子心理健康与家庭关系的重要因素，但很多时候，家长并不能察觉孩子有自卑的情绪。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">那么，什么样的孩子可能会是自卑的呢？</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">本篇文章告诉您：有以下四种表现的孩子，往往很自卑。</span></p></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;visibility: visible;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;visibility: visible !important;width: 234.313px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">每一位父母，都希望自己的孩子，能够成龙成凤；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">那么，孩子如何才能成人，进而成功呢？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">杰克·霍吉曾在《习惯的力量》说道：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">“思想决定行为，行为决定习惯，习惯决定性格，性格决定命运。”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">一个人的成就，除了和他本身的能力有关，还和他的性格，有很大的关系。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;">一个人拥有怎样的性格，就会过怎样的人生。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">自信的孩子，往往积极、乐观，内心具有超强的自驱力，因而更容易取得成功；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">而自卑的孩子，往往活得太累、太辛苦，难以立足于社会。</span></section><section style="padding-right: 22px; padding-left: 22px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFangSC-light; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">自卑的孩子，就像永远都不被照到的阴暗，低到了尘埃里。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">自卑的性格，将影响孩子的一生。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">心理学家提醒：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">有这四种表现的孩子，往往很自卑，家长一定要注意了↓↓↓</span></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;visibility: visible !important;width: 234.313px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 32px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); letter-spacing: 2px;"><em style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">01</strong></em></span></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(64, 118, 0);">讨好型的孩子</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">我们经常会听到，当父母夸孩子的时候，总是喜欢用“听话”、“懂事”等形容词；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">反之，如果对孩子不满，就会冠之以“不听话”、“不懂事”，“天天气我”等。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">其实，过于听话的孩子，也就是我们俗称的讨好型人格，往往没有自我。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">这样的孩子，被大人的情绪所控制，他们没有，也不敢有主见；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">在懂事、讨好别人之下，孩子们不经意间做出了自我牺牲。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">讨好型人格的孩子，委屈自己，方便别人；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">他们的童年记忆里，有很多委屈和迁就；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">这样的孩子，太让人心疼。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">在《请回答1988》中，有这样一句台词：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">懂事的孩子，只是不撒娇罢了；</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">只是适应了环境，做懂事的孩子；</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">适应了，别人错把他当成大人的眼神。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">讨好别人，看似善良大度，但其中隐藏的，却是渗到骨子里的自卑。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">天才作家蒋方舟，曾被众多家长视为“别人家的孩子。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">她7岁会作文，9岁就出书，18岁被清华大学破格录取，22岁当上杂志副主编。</span></p><p style="padding-right: 22px; padding-left: 22px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFangSC-light; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">然而，就是很专业的一个年少成名的才女，在某综艺节目上，却自爆自己是个讨好型人格的人。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">蒋方舟坦言：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">“日常相处中，我不会表达自己的不满或展示自己的愤怒，即使我已经很不愉快了 ，我也会忍着。我太在乎别人的评价了。”</strong></span><span style="font-size: 15px; outline: 0px;"> 对此，她举了一些例子：</span></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">穿绿色衣服是因为爸爸喜欢，学习考高分是为了让爸妈开心。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">高中选理科是因为班主任是学理科的，他说“学好数理化，走遍天下都不怕”。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">实际上，她自己并不喜欢理科；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">后来，她想读文科，又害怕老师和同学的侧目。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">工作后，即使看起来很体面，但她认为，这些都是父母想要的。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">她如果说自己要辞职，又担心父母会生气。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">后来，蒋方舟足足花了一年时间，去摆脱自己的讨好型人格。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">讨好型人格的孩子，表面看似乖巧听话，内心却极不快乐。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">所以，如果你的孩子非常听话，几乎从不顶嘴，那你应该注意了。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">我们的孩子，不应该由于自卑，害怕家长，而显得很听话；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">我们的孩子，应该发于内心，积于教养，散发出懂事的气质。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">孩子懂不懂事，很多时候是一种慢慢领悟的过程；</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;">对此，家长应该正确引导，而不是强制性命令。</strong></span></p><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;visibility: visible !important;width: 234.313px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><br></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 32px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); letter-spacing: 2px;"><em style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">02</strong></em></span></section><section><br></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(64, 118, 0);">格外胆小、害羞的孩子</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 22px; padding-left: 22px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFangSC-light; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px;"><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">如果，孩子经常说：“我不行、我不敢、我不会......”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">见人不敢打招呼、埋着头，上课从不主动发言，不主动交朋友，经常脸红低头......</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">孩子胆小害羞，很有可能就是自卑的表现。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">如果这个时候，家长还没有发现孩子的自卑，反而用比较的方法，逼孩子变得大胆，比如：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">你看XX就讲的很好，你跟他学学......</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">你怎么这么不争气，胆子那么小，真是让人头疼.....</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">这有什么不会的，吓成这个样子，至于嘛......</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">那么，这样的语言，反而会更加打击孩子的弱小心灵，让孩子更加自卑。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">这个时候，我们应该给孩子更多的陪伴与鼓励，告诉孩子，害羞是正常的性格表现；</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">在孩子接受自己的性格之后，家长可以和孩子一起多进行一些亲子活动，一起跑步，一起爬山，主动表达自己，让孩子敞开心扉。</span></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;visibility: visible !important;width: 234.313px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><br></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 32px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); letter-spacing: 2px;"><em style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">03</strong></em></span></section><section><br></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(64, 118, 0);">孩子贬低、妒忌他人</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 22px; padding-left: 22px; outline: 0px; font-family: PingFangSC-light; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); line-height: 1.7; letter-spacing: 1px;"><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">莎士比亚曾说过：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">“你要留心嫉妒啊，那是一个绿眼的妖怪！”</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">嫉妒别人，也是一种自卑。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">自卑的孩子，往往不会喜欢比他优秀的人。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">看到网上一个故事：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">李女士给女儿报了一个舞蹈班，她觉得，这样可以让孩子主动融入到团体当中。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">女儿似乎也没有让她失望。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">报班后，女儿一直努力地在练习，回到家后还经常给李女士示范，这让她很欣慰。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">后来，舞蹈班老师给李女士打电话说，想让女儿去参加舞蹈比赛，好好表现自己。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">她便带着女儿去了。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">比赛后，李女士的女儿获得了第二名；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">离开时，碰巧在后台遇到了拿第一名的小女孩，对方热情地给她们打招呼，但李女士的女儿却爱答不理的，李女士只好找借口说孩子不太舒服，着急走了。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">后来，李女士问女儿为什么？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">女儿有些不高兴地说：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">“她跳舞比我好，我一点也不喜欢她。”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">李女士听到这个解释，觉得哭笑不得，但又不知该怎么劝导孩子。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">俗话说：“人外有人，天外有天。”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">这个世界上，优秀的孩子有很多；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">我们的孩子，在成长的过程中，几乎总是会遇到挑战。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">与其让孩子在妒忌中承受着自卑，不如教会孩子放低心态，教孩子“以人为师”。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">如此，孩子不仅能在与他人的交往中，不断提升自己；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">而且，打开心扉的孩子，还能交到不少的朋友，让孩子的人生路，走得更宽敞。</span></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 234.313px;height: auto;border-width: 0px;border-radius: 10px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);overflow: hidden;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;visibility: visible !important;width: 234.313px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 32px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); letter-spacing: 2px;"><em style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">04</strong></em></span></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span style="color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong>过分争强好胜的孩子</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px;"><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">有心理学家发现：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">“自卑感强的孩子，总感到自己不如别人；但另一方面，又非常希望自己能有优秀的表现。”</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><span style="font-size: 15px; outline: 0px;">也就是说：<br style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;">自卑儿童尽管自感“低人一等”，但往往又会反常地比正常孩子更追求家长和教师的表扬，而且可能采用不诚实、不适当的方式，如弄虚作假、考试作弊等。</strong></span></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">争强好胜不是错，然而，由于自卑而争强好胜，只是为了证明自己，这样的孩子，往往活得太累。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">极度自负的孩子，往往极度自卑。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">著名作家三毛，就是一个这样的人。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">作为文坛才华横溢的作家，三毛可谓是意气风发。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">然而，三毛的父亲却对她十分苛责，也不喜欢她的作品。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">对此，三毛承认，这是她心中的死结。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">小时候，父亲虽然从没打过她，但每次看她时，都会叹气。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">这让她天天觉得：“你这个让父亲伤心的孩子，是有罪的。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">长大后，三毛的文章，父亲也不喜欢。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">后来，她在《一生的战役》中写道：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">“这一生，丈夫欣赏我，朋友欣赏我，手足欣赏我，都解不开我心里那个死结。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">对我来说，一生的悲哀，并不是要赚得全世界，而是要请你欣赏我。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">等你这一句话，等了一生一世，只等你——我的父亲，亲口说出来，肯定了我在这个家庭里一辈子消除不掉的自卑和心虚。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">她一生叛逆与痛苦的根源，都是为了与父亲抗争，为赢得父亲的赞赏。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">作为家长，我们不能只看到卷子和分数，更应该看到孩子内心的呐喊和彷徨。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">学会接纳孩子的平凡和不完美，是我们仍需要继续努力的功课，也是作为父母的必要修养。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">给孩子阳光般的爱吧，如此，孩子才能驱散内心的自卑和怯懦，大胆地迎接人生的芳华。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">阿德勒曾说：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">“每个人都有或多或少的自卑感。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">孩子自卑不可怕，可怕的是孩子自卑后，依然得不到正确的对待。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">有心理学研究表明：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">“人的性格形成除了先天性因素，也有后天环境的影响，尤其是原生家庭的影响更加深远。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(64, 118, 0);letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">愿每个父母，都能以和谐的家庭氛围、正确的教育方式，引导孩子走向阳光与自信！</strong></span></p><p><span style="outline: 0px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 16px; color: rgb(187, 118, 11);"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><br></strong></span></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(178, 178, 178);font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;visibility: 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