你在管理情绪，还是在发泄情绪？
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果说情绪管理也有一个从低到高的水平之分的话，是从“无意识的压抑与或泄”到“有意识的宣泄或承受”再到“有意识的觉察与成长”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 677px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无意识的压抑或宣泄</span></strong></span></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪，尤其是强烈的情绪，如果没有处理好，伤已又伤人。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“无意识的压抑”明显属于伤自己比较多的类型。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">成长过程中，因为父母、老师的各种教导或者他们的干预方式，让我们觉得有些情绪是不适合的，是不能有、不能表达的，或者他们的教育方式，让我们习得一种忽视、压抑自己情绪的习惯，我们会自动的把它压抑下去，或者觉得它无所谓。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是事实上，这些情绪一直存在着，变成“内伤”，不断积累，有一天突然爆发出来，连我们自己都不自己怎么突然这个样子，相信很多人体验过，或者见过这样的现象。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果说“无意识的压抑”伤自己比较多，那“无意识的宣泄”明显伤别人多一些。“无意识的宣泄”有以下两种常见的表现方式：</span></strong></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一种是以情绪化的方式表现出来，让别人觉得你的表现有点过分或者有点奇怪。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们经常有这样的体验，你跟对方交流过程中，不知道说的哪句话“伤”到了他/她，对方突然很大情绪，明显感觉到对方说话声音大了点，情绪也激励了点儿，你给对方反馈，对方会说“没有啊”，然后给你解释一大堆他/她为什么会这么说。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这种情况下，其实对方并没有意识到自己的情绪，而直接以“激烈”的方式表现出来，让别人不知道该如何与他/她沟通。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">因为这个时候，他/她说话的方式、内容，只是为了表达情绪，是不会和你讲道理的，你讲的道理，他/她也是听不进去的。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">另一种是转移到其它地方，让那些“其他人”觉得你莫名其妙。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">生活中，我们经常会遇到某些人突破莫名其妙对你发火，你也不知道发生了什么，感觉自己也没有做错什么，跟他反驳，他会不断辩解，你觉得莫名其妙。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">最常见的现象是在公司受了气，回家冲老婆/老公、小孩发火，当然这里说的发火，是他/她自己并没有意识到自己有情绪、自己受了伤。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">以上两种方式，都是自己没有意识到自己的情绪，然后冲其他人发火，别人不知道到底发生了什么，莫名其妙的“被”伤及无辜。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-category="fav" data-mpa-color="null" data-mpa-template-id="690922" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有意识的宣泄或承受</span></strong></span></p></section></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪发生时，自己有没有意识，有一个质的区别。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">自己没有意识，我们就会把情绪压抑下去，或者下意识的以“消极的方式”表现出来或者转移到其它地方。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这种情况下，情绪会附带在我们的言行中，变相去表达，让我们的行为不受控，我们以为自己在表达内容，实际上是在潜意识的表达情绪，别人不知道我们为什么会这样子，变得不讲道理。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有时候，我们也自己也觉得，为什么自己控制不了自己，其实都是情绪惹的祸，而自己并不知道。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对情绪的敏感觉察（即有情绪时，能很好的意识到自己的情绪）最大的益处在于，我们知道自己有情绪，也知道自己这样说、这样做有发泄情绪的因素在里面，当效果不好时，我们就可以及时调节，情绪也就变得可控。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">最常见的“有意识的情绪管理方法”，就是“有意识的宣泄”，即，我们意识到自己有情绪，并选择一种方式去宣泄（表达、体育运动、睡觉、唱歌、看电影等等）。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有时候在沟通过程中，我们意识到自己有了情绪，也意识到自己的声音大了点，语速快了点，觉察到了自己的情绪。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当沟通不畅时，或者因自己带情绪的表达方式让沟通效果不理想时，我们可以意识到是自己的情绪在作怪，就可以及时调节、控制，这也是很多擅长沟通的人经常做的，他们会主动承认自己有点刚才有点情绪，当他们这样表达时，一般换来的，都是对方的理解和真诚，也让沟通有了转机。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有意识的处理情绪还有另外一种方法，就是有意识的承受。我们经常会有一种误解，觉得有情绪，就应该处理掉，否则就是不好的。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是事实上，我们都知道，但凡那些受过各种挫折，经历过各种失败、痛苦而内心强大的人，在他们经历无数失败、痛苦的时候，当时不一定有肩膀可以依靠，也不一定有时间去宣泄自己的情绪，很多时候，他们选择了另一种方式：承受。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孟子说“天降大任于斯人也，必先苦其心志、劳其筋骨、饿其体肤、空乏其身、增益其所不能。”这就说到了选择“承受”情绪所带来的心志磨炼效果。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那些有情绪就经常找人宣泄的人，会养成一种习惯，一旦有情绪时，就需要宣泄，而那些选择承受的人，每一次承受，都让内心更坚强、更强大，可以承受更强烈的情绪，当再次面临这些情绪时，他们可以波澜不惊，泰然处之。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，前提是他们意识到了自己的情绪，而选择去承受，这样的承受，这样的情绪处理方法，可以让我们内心更强大、更坚强。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 325px;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-category="fav" data-mpa-color="null" data-mpa-template-id="690922" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">有意识的觉察与成长</span></strong></span></p></section></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪管理，再怎么管理，还是有情绪，如果消极情绪更少，积极情绪更多，岂不更好？情绪管理的另一个水平，就是觉察与成长，目的就是放下、是爱。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪从本质上来讲，是动机、欲望满足与否的表现，欲望满足时，我们开心、高兴、兴奋，各种积极情绪。欲望没有实现时，我们伤心、生气、愤怒，各种消极情绪。归根到底，还是因为我们有欲望，我们易受伤害。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而我们的大部分欲望，来源我们成长过程中的欲求未被及时满足，我们太容易受伤害，也源于在我们成长过程中，没有及时得到父母等“重要他人”的认可与支持。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一次情绪的发生，其实都是我们觉察与成长的机会。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">觉察情绪过程中的心理感受、身体反应，可以让我们对自己更了解、对身体更敏感，对自己的了解和对身体的敏感，可以提高自己的直觉能力，提升自己的灵性水平，让我们更容易与自己、他人、自然联结。</span></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">觉察的同时，也是机会，让我们可以深入去分析自己的行为模式，分析自己在成长过程中那些未满足的欲望与期待，然后通过接纳、原谅、转变等方式放下、成长，如此，我们在面临很多情境时，可以放下自己的欲求与原来的应对方式，也就不会再有情绪，也就可以坦然应对。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们那些负面的情绪越来越少，那些被压抑的，没有表现机会的自我实现动机、爱的欲求就会自然表现出来。</span></strong></p></section></section><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们原来帮助他人是为了证明自己或者改变他人时，我们就会对他人有期待，当他人没有按照我们建议去做时，我们就会伤心、失望，也会影响我们下次继续帮助他。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们不再需要再证明自己的价值而自身充满能量，也可以接纳他人的现状而只是真诚的想协助他人成长时，我们就会放下期待，当他们没有听从我们的建议时，我们也可以坦然接纳，并鼓励他继续成长。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这时，我们对他人帮助就只是单纯的爱与帮助，这样，他们失败时，我们会坦然，他人也不会有失败与改变的压力。如此，则负面的情缘会越来越少，积极的情绪会越来越多。</span></p></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪成熟的人具有的4个特征</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(115, 70, 137); color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important;">1、能为他人着想</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">通常，人们会习惯性地从自我的角度来看问题，比如我想要什么，这样做能不能是否对我有利，等等。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有时候我们也会去猜测对方在想什么，但是我们很少会设身处地的站在对方的立场上，想象一下假如自己是对方，会有什么样的感受，或者会有什么样的情绪。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当然，有的人会说：</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这不很正常吗？我为什么要为他人考虑？我为什么要委屈自己，成就他人？</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这样想的人有一种误解，就是认为替别人考虑，为他人着想只是一个奉献问题，体现的也只是一个人品性的高低。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实，为他人着想不仅是一种道德品性，更是一种能力。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当一个人只关注自己的时候，视野会变窄，很容易用一种非此即彼、非黑即白的对抗的心态来处理人与人之间的关系，从而容易引发冲突。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而能为他人着想的人，在遇到问题时，则可以从自己和他人两个角度来看待问题，尽可能追求双赢。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">人际关系就是这样，它既复杂又简单，你和别人作对，别人也会和你作对，大家都不开心；你替别人着想，别人也会替你着想，大家都能收获惊喜。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，有同理心，能为他人着想，是情绪成熟非常重要的一个特质。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(115, 70, 137); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">2、有担当，敢于承担责任 </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">生活中，没有人可以一帆风顺，事事如意，我们总会遭遇一些意想不到的挫折和打击。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">逆境对所有的人都是一个考验，而面对逆境，拥有多强的承受力也是决定一个人成就大小的重要因素。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">承受能力弱的人，要么遇到事情后习惯性地退缩和回避，内心越来越脆弱；要么不停地抱怨，把问题的责任都推给别人，变得越来越让人讨厌。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">相反，敢于承担责任的人，看似在吃亏，实则是在积累。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一是在积累能力，解决问题的能力。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">二是在积累信任，周围的人对自己的信任。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当这样的积累到一定程度后，想不成功都难。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; background-color: rgb(115, 70, 137); color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important;">3、懂得爱自己</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一个情绪成熟的人一定是爱自己的。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所谓爱自己，就是不忽视和否认自己的合理需要，并尽可能去满足它。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多人在意识中有一种偏见，好像一提爱自己，就是自私自利。这完全是两回事。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">自私是损害别人的利益，以获取更多的好处。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">而爱自己，则是先满足自己合理的需要，然后把其余的能量和爱分享给别人。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">毕竟，只有你能照顾好自己的需要，内心不再亏空的时候，才有能力去照顾别人的。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪成熟的人懂得这个道理，所以他们不会过度压抑自己的合理需求和需要，而是积极地去满足。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这样，自己的内心才会越来越充满快乐，越充满阳光。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这时，你会发现自己的人际关系反而会变得简单起来。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); background-color: rgb(115, 70, 137); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">4、会放下 </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">犯了过错，承担相应的责任，这是应该的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是，对于很多习惯了罪己的人来说，在遇到问题的时候需要问自己两个问题：</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这件事是由你直接造成的，还是间接造成的？</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;">这件事是你有意为之，还是无心的过失？</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情况不同，你需要承担的责任也是不同的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果并不是你直接造成的，事情的结果也不是你的本意，那么要告诉自己：这不是你的错。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">即使你需要为此负责，这种责任也是有期限的。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有些人因为当时的某些原因，确实做了一些让别人和自己都无法原谅的事情。对此，确实要担负起自己应有的担当来。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是，任何过错的责任都不能放大，更不能用一生来承担。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">过去的生活是让我们警醒的，但是并不是让我们固着于此，用牺牲现在和未来的方式为过去还债。</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(115, 70, 137); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪成熟的人，明白有些事情是需要及时放下的。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px; margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">因为相对于过去，更重要的是如何过好现在和明天。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); line-height: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">来源：灵性心理学注</span></p><p style="margin: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); line-height: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尊重原创，版权为原作者所有，如有侵权，请联系我们删除。欢迎投稿</span></p><p><br></p><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「青少年儿童心理健康」，搜索「youngkids2020」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/EF1MK8nqfLx8yq1iJ5av6A">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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