和厌拒学孩子沟通的有效方法
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font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P认可&关注</strong></p></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 12px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);height: 1px;visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left;line-height: 0;width: 0px;vertical-align: top;visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; transform: perspective(0px); transform-style: flat; visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-top: 10px;outline: 0px;text-align: center;justify-content: center;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;transform: rotateX(180deg);visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 16.9167px;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 5px;outline: 0px;text-align: right;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 6px;height: 6px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 16.9167px;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 6px;height: 6px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;flex: 100 100 0%;height: auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: 4px;visibility: visible;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float: left;line-height: 0;width: 0px;vertical-align: top;visibility: visible;"></svg></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;transform: rotateY(180deg);visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 16.9167px;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 5px;outline: 0px;text-align: right;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 6px;height: 6px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 16.9167px;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 6px;height: 6px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding: 29px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 677px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);height: auto;visibility: visible;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(160, 160, 160); visibility: visible;"><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br>首先，要了解孩子真正想表达什么，怎么就认可&关注到他了。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">孩子在问题的初期，他说“妈我有心理问题了”“我现在很烦，我不想上学，我最近很累”“我现在很难受，一到学校我就心慌胸闷恐慌，一看到同学我就烦，总觉得他们在议论我，我太难受了”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;visibility: visible;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">此时，他的渴望是什么？</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><br style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;visibility: visible;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">（理解/接纳/帮助/渴望）被看见什么？</span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;letter-spacing: 0.578px;text-align: center;white-space: normal;width:auto !important;max-width:100% !important;height:auto !important;"></span></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">1</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">要先看到孩子的状态</strong></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">“理解”孩子</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br>（1）先看到他有气无力、很难受、很烦、很厌恶的状态。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">（2）孩子<strong style="outline: 0px;">渴望</strong>被父母看到、关注、理解，父母就要说出来：<em style="outline: 0px;">“妈妈爸爸知道你现在心里很难受”“孩子看起来你现在很难受”。</em></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding: 29px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 677px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(249, 110, 87);"><br>错误示范</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">① “孩子你不想上学，咱就休息几天，在家里调整下吧”“不行咱回家吧”：这个回答不是理解，恰恰没有理解他。他没有说他不想上学。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">② “发生了什么事儿啊？”想了解原因，“有什么困扰和妈妈说说”“希望妈妈给你什么方法呀”：都不是最佳答案，不是理解。可以放到后面再问。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">③ “你已经挺棒的，虽然躺平这么久，还能比别人上学的考得好，你已经很了不起了”：孩子听到这个会很烦，父母还是纠结在考试上。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">2</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">看到孩子难受了</strong></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">父母要表达自己的感受</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br>(1) “妈妈看着你很难受，妈妈这个心里也难受，也心疼”。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">(2) 要真正去感受孩子的难受，而不只是套用一些方法。否则，有疾病的孩子会很反感，前期会觉得很恶心，受不了。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">3</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">看到孩子的努力</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;"><br>(1) “妈妈心里挺不是滋味的，没想到这么多天，你这么难受了依然在坚持、依然在努力。你都不给妈妈说，自己坚持着、自己扛着。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">(2) 这个模式也可以用在工作上，和同事说：“哎呀我看你最近真是挺辛苦的，你最近帮我做了这么多事，我心里还挺感激的，挺不好意思的。最近一两周领导就要检查，没想到你都扛下来了，也没给我说。我还挺过意不去的。”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">(3) 这个模式也可以用在亲密关系上，和太太说：“哎呀老婆你看，我最近看你，挺累的，照顾孩子挺辛苦的。哎呀我天天在外面跑，我一直挺在乎、挺关心，心里一直挺不是个滋味的。特别是我在外面，你有什么事基本上都自己扛，你也从来不给我说，你让我更内疚了。”</span></p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">4</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">接下来再扩充</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;"><br>有几个方向往下走，比如 “孩子你坚持了这么久，你给妈妈说说，妈妈很好奇，你坚持了这么久、努力了这么久，到底是怎么做到的？”。这时候，孩子的“委屈”和“资源”都来了，根据不同情况应对。</span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">(1) 委屈：孩子有委屈先发泄，“我怎么做到的，我敢跟你说嘛，我怎么怎么”；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 16px;">(2) 资源：状态不这么低落的孩子，他可能就会讲他的方法，“我每天去调整我的情绪，比如我早上怎么怎么样，我对每一节课去分配”。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">5</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">让孩子感觉你在关注他</strong></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">愿意了解他在那个难受情境下的状态</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding: 29px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 677px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(249, 110, 87);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br>错误示范</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(249, 110, 87);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">不要先问他在学校里发生什么事了；让他自由发挥，虽然他回答的不一定是“感觉感受”，让他去诉说。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">父母和孩子交流不要高高在上，父母尽量选择坐在一个比他还要低的位置，不给孩子带来压迫感。眼神要保持目光的水平。</span></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">6</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">还要做个比较</strong></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br>“回到家里你会开心吗，会舒服吗，回到家是什么感受？回到家的状态怎么样？”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">(1) 这几句话说出去，让孩子觉得父母很懂他，很认可他很关注他，很能同感共情，交流就来了。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">(2) “原来是这样。妈妈没想到我儿子承受了这么多，这么难受，我今天才知道。看起来家里和学校，还是有不同的。”</span></p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">7</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">和他一起分类</strong></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;line-height: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">找出他在学校的应激刺激</strong></span></section></section><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br>“你看你在学校里承受了很多，妈妈和你一块看看，学校带给你最大压力的是什么？你最接受不了的是什么？”“在学校里什么情况下让你最紧张？”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="padding: 29px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 621.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">错误示范</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(249, 110, 87);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);"> </span>一上来就问“你在学校里最大的压力是什么？”，不行，孩子不喜欢，会说“我也不知道”；但是如果前面铺垫很多以后，就可以问。</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.9);"></span></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">①有的是学业考试“我受不了，每次考试考不好，我都特别紧张”；有的是人际关系“我到学校一看到同学，他们在那儿讲话，我都觉得他们在针对我，他们都笑话我”，家长要帮着孩子一起分类。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">②孩子开始交流，父母再反馈、分类：“看来好像是考试上/和老师同学的关系上有点压力”，父母帮孩子做分类，不用他自己分类，让孩子觉得父母很懂他。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">③比如，孩子“一发卷子，老师一读成绩我就紧张”，家长“平时读成绩的时候紧张吗？”，孩子“不紧张”，家长“平时不读成绩的时候，老师在上面说话紧张吗？”，孩子“也不紧张”，家长“哦，所以只有考完试发卷子的时候读成绩紧张”。家长帮孩子找出在学校的应激反应。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">分完类，找出应激刺激后，再去接纳他。</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="padding: 29px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 621.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">错误示范</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">不要光说答案“去上学”“不去上学”，要和他探讨更多。</span></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">① 比如，家长“讲了这么多，你现在感觉怎么样孩子？你有什么想法？”，孩子“妈，我不想上了”，家长“好，没问题孩子。你能坚持这么久不容易，咱们完全可以休学。你想休多久，你想怎么做，没问题，你自己来决定”，有的孩子接下来就会自己说很多。因为在初期时候受到理解，有的孩子就立刻上学了，就回去了。帮他分析很透，他就明白了。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">②比如，孩子自己说出需要后，家长“孩子妈妈理解你，你接下来有什么打算，你有什么想法？无论你做什么打算、有什么想法，妈妈都支持你，我们一起来面对。”“你看看需要妈妈做什么能够支持到你？”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">③不要总去解决孩子的问题，让孩子自己去表达他的需要。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">A. 不要用解决问题的思路去应对。比如，孩子“我晚上睡不着”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 10px;outline: 0px;text-align: left;justify-content: flex-start;display: flex;flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="padding: 29px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 621.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(160, 160, 160);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">错误示范</span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">家长<span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">×</span>“那就别睡了”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">孩子“我在这张床睡得不舒服”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">家长<span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">×</span>“那你就换张床”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">家长<span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(249, 110, 87);">×</span>“要不你在家休息几天”</span></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><br></p><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><strong style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px;">要去问孩子的需求和打算</strong></p><p style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><strong style="color: rgb(249, 110, 87); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px;"><br></strong></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">B. 前面铺垫这么多，就是让孩子敢于敞开心扉，表达需要；家长不要替代他去说。如果孩子一旦能够敞开心扉，愿意说心里话了，孩子的问题就会有很大的好转。敞开心扉，内在的力量和动力就会起来。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;min-width: 5%;flex: 0 0 auto;height: auto;align-self: flex-start;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 38px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(255, 193, 69);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;font-size: 23px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">8</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -3px;margin-bottom: -3px;outline: 0px;transform-origin: center center 0px;transform: scale(0.77);"><section style="outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 0px;height: 0px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;border-style: solid;border-width: 13px 8px 0px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) rgba(255, 255, 255, 0) rgb(251, 133, 129) rgba(18, 18, 18, 0);"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section></section></section></section><section style="padding-left: 18px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: auto;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;min-width: 5%;height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;transform: perspective(0px);transform-style: flat;"><section style="margin-top: -10px;margin-bottom: 2px;outline: 0px;transform: rotateX(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 38px;height: 5px;vertical-align: top;overflow: hidden;background-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;font-size: 18px;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><strong style="outline: 0px;">注意事项</strong></p></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><section style="line-height: 2em;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: right; justify-content: flex-end; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap;"><section style="padding-left: 26px;outline: 0px;display: inline-block;width: 649.917px;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);height: auto;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px;text-align: justify;"><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">(1) 父母要实时向孩子开放自己的感觉感受，孩子才愿意诉说。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">(2) 对于有心理问题心理疾病的孩子，极度敏感，没有错的机会，需要非常谨慎：既要让孩子感受到关心、没有压迫感，又是无条件的。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></p><p style="outline: 0px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">(3) 前端铺垫可以多一点，不急着解决他的问题；而是引导孩子表达出自己的需要。</span><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.034em;text-align: center;"></span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; widows: 1; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><br></section><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「心理讲师联盟」，搜索「x66657172」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/9sli0iwkVivc_Fu4fjMj_Q">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p> 1. 听取孩子的想法和意见，给予尊重。这能让孩子感受到被关注和理解，从而愿意与父母进行更多的交流。2. 建立信任和积极的沟通氛围。让孩子知道自己可以随时向父母倾诉，不会有任何负面的后果。
3. 鼓励孩子表达情感。有时孩子的抵触情绪是由于内心的焦虑、担忧或不安造成的，让他们将这些情感表达出来可以帮助他们释放压力，缓解紧张情绪。
4. 采用适当的说话方式。在和孩子交流时，要注意语气和措辞。尽量使用鼓励性的话语，让孩子感受到支持和肯定。
5. 尝试使用各种沟通方式。有些孩子喜欢通过绘画、写作或游戏来表达自己的想法，而不是直接口头表达。父母应该尝试适应孩子的沟通方式，为其提供多种表达渠道。
6. 不要挑战孩子的观点和意见。对于孩子的想法，父母可以提出不同的看法和观点，但应该尊重孩子自己的决定。
7. 与孩子建立良好的关系和互动。在日常生活中多关注孩子的兴趣爱好和生活动态，赞美孩子的优点，并尝试帮助他们解决问题，让孩子感到自己得到了家人的支持和关爱。
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