测评 | 你与子女的关系融洽吗？
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com onekey" style="font-size: 16px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-Light, 微软雅黑;"><section data-tools="135编辑器 " data-id="123515 "><section style="margin: 10px auto;background-color: rgb(255, 248, 248);border-left: 5px solid rgb(129, 213, 206);display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;"><section style="color: rgb(129, 213, 206);text-align: center;padding: 5px 10px;"><br></section></section></section><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-family: 微软雅黑; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">在中国传统的思想观念中，一位典型的中国式父亲，往往有着“父本位”的思维。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-family: 微软雅黑; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">在面对自己的子女时，中国式父亲往往一边嫌弃一边教训，身旁总是弥漫一股浓浓的“爹味”。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-family: 微软雅黑; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">事实上，现实生活中，有太多的家长有着这样的思想，不在意亲子间的沟通方式。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-family: 微软雅黑; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">家庭教育中，我们总是忽略了一个微小但重要的细节——学会跟孩子好好说话。</span></p><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="126887"><section style="margin: 10px auto;display: flex;justify-content: center;"><section style="display: flex;"><section style="display: flex;align-items: flex-start;flex-shrink: 0;"><section style="height: 90%;border-right: 1px solid rgb(158, 225, 229);width: 5px;overflow: hidden;"><br></section></section><section><section style="display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;margin-left: -6px;"><section style="width: 40%;border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(158, 225, 229);height: 5px;overflow: hidden;max-width: 40% !important;" data-width="40%"><br></section></section><section style="color: rgb(158, 225, 229); text-align: center; padding-right: 11px; padding-bottom: 4px; padding-left: 11px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong>不会说话的父母是孩子一生的噩梦</strong></span></section><section style="padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;margin-top: -15px;"><section style="width: 100%;background-image: linear-gradient(to right, rgb(255, 233, 185), rgb(255, 219, 211));background-position: initial;background-size: initial;background-repeat: initial;background-attachment: initial;background-origin: initial;background-clip: initial;height: 10px;overflow: hidden;" data-width="100%"><br></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“</span><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">你这孩子，是不是还给脸不要脸？</span><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">”</span><br></p><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“对我说话的什么语气？我可是你爸！”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“你还敢顶嘴？”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">……</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">似曾相识的场景，熟悉的爹味，在我们的身边无时无刻不在发生。其实，这些生活中的缩影，都是“爹味”的表现。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-size: 14px; text-shadow: none; letter-spacing: 1.5px; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">下面这几种亲子沟通方式，是不是早就让你习以为常？</span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="125456" style="outline: 0px; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: center;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="padding-bottom: 3px;outline: 0px;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(255, 202, 66);border-bottom-right-radius: 0px;border-bottom-left-radius: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-bottom: 2px;padding: 6px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;background-color: rgb(129, 213, 206);border-style: none;border-width: 0px;border-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);visibility: visible;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong><span style="font-family: 微软雅黑;">习惯性挑刺</span></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="125028" style="outline: 0px; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;outline: 0px;text-align: center;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: flex-end;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 150px;background: rgb(255, 251, 242);flex-shrink: 0;overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section><section data-width="100%" style="outline: 0px;width: 100%;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: inherit;width: 100%;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 150px;background: rgb(255, 251, 242);flex-shrink: 0;overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section></section><section style="padding-top: 1em;padding-bottom: 1em;outline: 0px;background: rgb(255, 251, 242);"><section style="margin: 3px 10px;outline: 0px;"><section data-width="100%" style="outline: 0px;width: 100%;height: 1px;background: rgb(129, 213, 206);overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section><section data-width="40%" style="margin-top: -2px;margin-left: 3px;outline: 0px;width: 40%;height: 4px;background: rgb(255, 202, 66);overflow: hidden;max-width: 40% !important;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="outline: 0px; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">央视节目《心理访谈》曾采访过一个啃老十年的女生，33岁的长期啃老族范成金。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">一个本是如花似玉的年龄，本应该努力奋斗的她，却在大学毕业后既不结婚也不去找工作，而是理直气壮地窝在家里，浑浑噩噩的过日子。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">她之所以会这样，跟她的成长经历密不可分。</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">从小到大，她始终活在父母的差评中——</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">她喜欢雕塑和画画，可父母却对她的爱好嗤之以鼻：“喜欢那个有啥用？啥也干不了！”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">她想替家人做顿饭，却遭到了父母的打击：“你搁水咋搁这么多？做个饭都不会！”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">当她求职碰壁时，父母非但没有安慰，反而极尽挖苦：“你要是能成事了，狗都能成事了。”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">在范成金印象中，父母永远是那么毒舌，最热衷的就是对她的一举一动挑刺。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">久而久之，她不仅得了严重的心理障碍，变得自信心全无、不敢与他人打交道；而且对父母日益怨恨，最终彻底自暴自弃，活成了自己最厌恶的模样。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong>差评师式的家长，言语就像一把刀，注定将孩子的内心剜得千疮百孔。</strong></span></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="125456" style="outline: 0px; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="padding-bottom: 3px;outline: 0px;border-style: solid;border-width: 0px 0px 2px;border-color: rgb(255, 202, 66);border-bottom-right-radius: 0px;border-bottom-left-radius: 0px;"><section style="margin-bottom: 2px;padding: 6px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);text-align: center;background-color: rgb(129, 213, 206);border-style: none;border-width: 0px;border-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong>动不动讲大道理</strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="125028" style="outline: 0px; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="margin: 10px auto;outline: 0px;text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: flex-end;"><section style="outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 150px;background: rgb(255, 251, 242);flex-shrink: 0;overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section><section data-width="100%" style="outline: 0px;width: 100%;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: inherit;width: 100%;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 150px;background: rgb(255, 251, 242);flex-shrink: 0;overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section></section><section style="padding-top: 1em;padding-bottom: 1em;outline: 0px;background: rgb(255, 251, 242);"><section style="margin: 3px 10px;outline: 0px;"><section data-width="100%" style="outline: 0px;width: 100%;height: 1px;background: rgb(129, 213, 206);overflow: hidden;"><br style="outline: 0px;"></section><section data-width="40%" style="margin-top: -2px;margin-left: 3px;outline: 0px;width: 40%;height: 4px;background: rgb(255, 202, 66);overflow: hidden;max-width: 40% !important;"><br></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="outline: 0px; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">在网上曾有一个视频。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">讲述了一个八九岁的小女孩犯了错，被大人批评后表示想自己静一静，可她的妈妈依然在不依不饶地说教：</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“你今天的事情是错的还是对的？”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“错了改不改？该不该遭教训？”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“你到现在还没认识到自己的错误！”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">……</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"></span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">一连串咄咄逼人地追问，让小女孩的情绪彻底崩溃。她大哭着吼到：“我已经承认错误了，你还想怎样？”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">最后，面对女孩反复提出自己想静一静的要求，这位妈妈勉为其难答应了，却不忘补充了一句：</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“你可以静一静，但静完之后要给我写一个检讨……”</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">很多人都说这个女孩脾气大，顶撞父母太不应该。但其实，导致它的主要原因，便是她父母的沟通方式出了问题。</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"></span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">亲子之间发生矛盾时，家长一味的说教与讲大道理，非但不能引发孩子的共鸣，让他们心服口服地承认错误、吸取教训，反而会像火上浇油一般，让亲子关系更加紧张。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-size: 14px;text-shadow: none;letter-spacing: 1.5px;margin-bottom: 24px;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong>爱说教的家长，长篇大论犹如一堵墙，就这样隔开了自己和孩子。</strong></span></section><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="126887"><section style="margin: 10px auto;display: flex;justify-content: center;"><section style="display: flex;"><section><section style="display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;margin-left: -6px;"><section style="width: 40%;border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(158, 225, 229);height: 5px;overflow: hidden;max-width: 40% !important;" data-width="40%"><br></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px;color: rgb(158, 225, 229);text-align: center;padding-right: 11px;padding-bottom: 4px;padding-left: 11px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;font-size: 18px;"><strong data-brushtype="text">好好和孩子说话</strong></span></section><section style="padding-right: 5px;padding-left: 5px;margin-top: -15px;"><section style="width: 100%;background: linear-gradient(to right, rgb(255, 233, 185), rgb(255, 219, 211));height: 10px;overflow: hidden;" data-width="100%"><br></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="title" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="126887"><section style="margin: 10px auto;display: flex;justify-content: center;"><section style="display: flex;"><section><p style="text-align:center;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding-right: 11px;padding-bottom: 4px;padding-left: 11px;"><br></p><p style="text-align:center;font-size: 16px;color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding-right: 11px;padding-bottom: 4px;padding-left: 11px;"><strong><span style="font-family:微软雅黑, Microsoft YaHei;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align:inherit;"></span></span></strong></p></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="126878"><section style="margin: 10px auto;"><section><section style="width: 95%;height: 10px;background-image: linear-gradient(to right, rgb(255, 233, 184), rgb(255, 218, 212));background-position: initial;background-size: initial;background-repeat: initial;background-attachment: initial;background-origin: initial;background-clip: initial;margin-top: -5px;margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;overflow: hidden;max-width: 95% !important;" data-width="95%"><br></section></section><section data-autoskip="1" style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);padding-top: 10px;"><section style="text-align: justify;max-inline-size: 100%;margin-bottom: 24px;cursor: text;caret-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);color: rgb(34, 34, 34);text-shadow: none;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;outline: none 0px !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">这三个亲子沟通要点请记牢</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;max-inline-size: 100%;margin-bottom: 24px;cursor: text;caret-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);color: rgb(34, 34, 34);text-shadow: none;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;outline: none 0px !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">真正有效的亲子沟通，绝不是靠干巴巴的“说”就能实现的。我们必须要与孩子的心取得联结。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify;max-inline-size: 100%;margin-bottom: 24px;cursor: text;caret-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);color: rgb(34, 34, 34);text-shadow: none;font-family: 微软雅黑;line-height: 2em;outline: none 0px !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">而要想做到这一切，以下几个亲子沟通要点很关键——</span></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="126868"><section style="margin: 10px auto;"><section style="margin-top: 20px;margin-bottom: 20px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;margin-bottom: -15px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: center;transform-style: preserve-3d;"><section style="flex-shrink: 0;transform:translateZ(10px);-webkit-transform:translateZ(10px);-moz-transform:translateZ(10px);-o-transform:translateZ(10px);"><section style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);width: 32px;height: 32px;border-radius: 100%;background-image: linear-gradient(to right bottom, rgb(255, 231, 187), rgb(255, 220, 209));background-position: initial;background-size: initial;background-repeat: initial;background-attachment: initial;background-origin: initial;background-clip: initial;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;"><strong>0</strong><strong data-original-title="" title="">1</strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: 12px;margin-left: -15px;"><section style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding: 4px 15px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong data-brushtype="text">交流时从孩子的角度出发</strong></span></section></section></section></section><section style="border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding: 25px 15px 10px;"><section data-autoskip="1" style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">家长要改变自己，不断提升自己，调整自己的心态，要主动降低高高在上的姿态，蹲下身来，和孩子平等对视。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">当降低视线以后，你会发现不一样的孩子的世界，你会和孩子感同身受，你会从孩子的角度出发去看待和思考孩子的问题，这样就给家长和孩子有效沟通提供了强有力的保障。</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">站在孩子的角度思考问题，我们习惯于站在自己的角度想问题，但是孩子没有经历过所以很难理解，跟孩子说很多孩子也只能做到一知半解。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">因为，当我们想要跟孩子讲一件事的时候，不妨站在的孩子角度上，换成孩子容易理解的话来告诉孩子，这样孩子更容易理解和接受。</span></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 20px;margin-bottom: 20px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;margin-bottom: -15px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: center;transform-style: preserve-3d;"><section style="flex-shrink: 0;transform:translateZ(10px);-webkit-transform:translateZ(10px);-moz-transform:translateZ(10px);-o-transform:translateZ(10px);"><section style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);width: 32px;height: 32px;border-radius: 100%;background-image: linear-gradient(to right bottom, rgb(255, 231, 187), rgb(255, 220, 209));background-position: initial;background-size: initial;background-repeat: initial;background-attachment: initial;background-origin: initial;background-clip: initial;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;"><strong>0</strong><strong data-original-title="" title="">2</strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: 12px;margin-left: -15px;"><section style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding: 4px 15px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"><strong data-brushtype="text">培养孩子聊天的兴趣</strong></span></section></section></section></section><section style="border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding: 25px 15px 10px;"><section data-autoskip="1" style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">你是民主型父母吗？你与孩子的交流是积极乐观的吗？</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">下面的测评能帮助你清楚的了解自己是否和子女关系融洽！</span><strong data-brushtype="text " style="color: rgb(129, 213, 206);text-align: center;background-color: rgb(247, 252, 255);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-Light, 微软雅黑;font-size: 16px;"></strong></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="104873"><section style="text-align: center;margin: 10px auto;"><section style="background-color: rgb(249, 255, 254);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(206, 245, 240);padding: 30px 20px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;"><section style="width: 47%;" data-width="47%"><section style="width: 10px;height: 10px;background: linear-gradient(to right top, rgb(255, 250, 251) 0%, rgb(255, 230, 236) 100%);margin-bottom: -10px;border-radius: 50%;overflow: hidden;"><br></section><section data-autoskip="1" style="text-align: justify; line-height: 1.75em; color: rgb(134, 137, 136); background: transparent;"><p style="vertical-align:inherit;"><span style="font-size: 16px;font-family: 微软雅黑;">扫码测一测，<br></span></p><p style="vertical-align:inherit;"><a href="https://www.aixin114.org/app/measuring/guide?scaleid=10000137&type=3">你与子女的关系融洽吗？</a></p><p style="vertical-align:inherit;"><strong data-brushtype="text " style="color: rgb(129, 213, 206); font-size: 16px; text-align: center; background-color: rgb(247, 252, 255);"></strong></p></section></section><section style="width: 47%;" data-width="47%"><section style="width: 100%;" data-width="100%"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: inherit;width: 100%;display: block;border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 55px;"><br></span></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="text-align:center;line-height:0em;"><br></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">如何让孩子爱上和父母聊天的感觉？</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">一，孩子不肯说时，家长先说。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">也就是说，大人要打破孩子不肯和家长沟通的僵局，不妨抛砖引玉，主动挑起话题。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">当然，讨论的内容不要总围绕着学习和考试。天南海北的主题，小到当天的所见所闻、看书时的心得体会；大到天体宇宙、人类起源，我们都可以和孩子尽情探讨。</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">二，孩子开始说了，家长不要轻易打断。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">当孩子打开话匣子后，大人要学会管住嘴，不要时不时打断他们。</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">与此同时，为了让孩子说得更多，我们还可以在交流过程中多使用下面的句式：</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“你认为为什么会这样呢？”</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“我的看法是这样，你觉得呢？”</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">“我觉得你说得很好，还有补充吗？”</span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">……</span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: 微软雅黑;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">大人启发式的提问，有利于把聊天的主动权交给孩子，引导他们不断思考与分享。</span></p></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: 20px;margin-bottom: 20px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;margin-bottom: -15px;"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: center;transform-style: preserve-3d;"><section style="flex-shrink: 0;transform:translateZ(10px);-webkit-transform:translateZ(10px);-moz-transform:translateZ(10px);-o-transform:translateZ(10px);"><section style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);width: 32px;height: 32px;border-radius: 100%;background-image: linear-gradient(to right bottom, rgb(255, 231, 187), rgb(255, 220, 209));background-position: initial;background-size: initial;background-repeat: initial;background-attachment: initial;background-origin: initial;background-clip: initial;display: flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;"><strong>0</strong><strong data-original-title="" title="">3</strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: 12px;margin-left: -15px;"><section style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding: 4px 15px;"><strong data-brushtype="text">充分运用多元化的沟通形式</strong></section></section></section></section><section style="border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(158, 225, 229);padding: 25px 15px 10px;"><section data-autoskip="1" style="line-height: 1.75em;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">知乎上，有一位网友分享了父母让自己印象最深的一件事。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">那是一次重要的考试，她很意外地考砸了。心灰意冷之下，她才出考场便忍不住哭了。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">这时候，母亲默默走上前，紧紧抱住了她。尽管一言不发，但那个拥抱是那么温暖，瞬间治愈了她的心。</span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;"></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">很多年以后，这位网友依然记得这个细节。母亲的拥抱，成为她此后笑对人生风浪最坚强的盔甲。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">很多时候，相比言语，还有许多多元化的表达，往往更有力量。无论是一个暖心的微笑、温柔的拥抱、还是一个甜蜜的亲吻，都会让孩子感受到大人的爱与接纳。</span></section><section style="text-align: justify; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); text-shadow: none; margin-bottom: 24px; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 2px;">紧密的联结由此建立，亲子之间的高效沟通，无声胜有声。</span></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器 " data-id="125421 "><section style="margin: 10px auto;transform-style: preserve-3d;"><section style="padding: 10px;border-style: solid;border-width: 1px;border-color: rgb(255, 202, 66);border-radius: 0px;transform: translateZ(5px);"><section style="background-color: rgb(247, 252, 255);padding: 20px 10px;border-style: none;border-width: 0px;border-color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"><section style="display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;"><section style="width: 38%;max-width: 38% 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