每个人都有负面情绪，你了解吗？
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p><br></p><section class="channels_iframe_wrp wxw_wechannel_card_not_horizontal"><mp-common-videosnap class="js_uneditable custom_select_card channels_iframe videosnap_video_iframe" data-pluginname="mpvideosnap" data-url="https://findermp.video.qq.com/251/20304/stodownload?encfilekey=rjD5jyTuFrIpZ2ibE8T7YmwgiahniaXswqzudK9NRLjhEvHkBhueaXLzxVJKkl9ZJShMkAICMnEOPwniaX97SyxnkjU6WpC0BJbENBNibqMPxq4utPoMyfT1nHg&adaptivelytrans=0&bizid=1023&dotrans=0&hy=SH&idx=1&m=&scene=0&token=AxricY7RBHdWHB0g8r4XvA6TR13eglTMOIia2O9icOL4jQXicicfibuSsvJyuX84bhxibgns64cibxWPia3I" data-headimgurl="http://wx.qlogo.cn/finderhead/kMaz9nc8bgIL4mxbWPjibgzPKxN0NSOAkkjrdJkbnynbV8pDxdDjcJg/0" data-username="v2_060000231003b20faec8cae38b1ccbd4ce01ef33b0777e11f6b7161b427df1dfdb1282b9b6c3@finder" data-nickname="心师之友" data-desc="成员招募 | 免费心理学交流社群 招募成员了~ 需要了解详情请点击视频底部链接@心师之友#心理学#学习心理学#心理学入门#心理学知识#免费心理学#免费心理学学习群#" data-nonceid="5132796037210473159" data-type="video" data-mediatype="undefined" data-authiconurl="" data-from="new" data-width="1104" data-height="1080" data-id="export/UzFfAgtgekIEAQAAAAAAZxUQFwE92AAAAAstQy6ubaLX4KHWvLEZgBPEioJcDytactSCzNPgMIvYTHx1TXsUy9UpXpaUrQ28" data-isdisabled="0" data-errortips=""></mp-common-videosnap></section><p style="outline: 0px; 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letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">来源：心灵成长家园（ID：<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">xinling_JY</span>）</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个人都有负面情绪。负面情绪里包含着非常多重要的信息，打开这个信息，真正的了解自己。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但实际上，并没有什么所谓真正的“负面情绪”。每一个情绪都是一种语言，都是带着信息来与我们沟通的。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们带着觉知，而不是无意识去看这些情绪的时候，就会发现情绪并没有好、坏之分，也不存在真正的“负面情绪”。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪是送信人，每一封信都来自于我们的内心。如果你好好的收下这个信息，理解并应对好这封信，送信人就会走了。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">相反，如果你关门不接待这个送信人，他就会一次次的不请自来，就像一个送快递的：如果你没收到，他就得一趟趟的送。如果你关着门，他就得敲门、甚至撞门。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">白天你不接收，他晚上还会再来——这也就是为什么我们总在梦中梦见一些我们并不愿意看见和接受的画面。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">越大的情绪，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; caret-color: red; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">包含着越大、越重要的信息，如果你不接受、不解读，它就会反复出现提醒我们看见。因为这封信里，包含着我们内心的重要需要。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，如果你处于巨大的情绪中，感觉自己很情绪化，先不要自我批判和自我谴责。这绝对不是什么坏事。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: 616.063px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">下面，让我们举例来说说情绪，尤其是负面情绪的价值和好意：</span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97619" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section draggable="true" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(255, 76, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">01</strong></span></p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">压抑 · 让你获得安全</span></strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们在生活中，难免遇到让自己觉得难捱的情况，我们时常会忍一忍，虽然我们觉得当时有压抑，但至少当时你获得了安全：在你没有能力或者准备去应对那个冲突时，压抑保护了你。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一个压抑都避免了一次，我们暂时不愿意去面对的冲突。至于我们现在还要不要压抑，取决于我们有没有准备好应对一个可能的冲突，或准备好表达真实的自己。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">老实说，每个人都无法避免出现压抑的情绪。当我们还小的时候，我们依赖父母和他人，我们没有足够的能力独立，没有足够的能力保护自己，不压抑几乎是不可能的。压抑让我们退回到自己的空间内，让我们得以喘息和休憩。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">压抑虽然保证了安全，但是确实委屈甚至扭曲了我们真实的自己，甚至有些人会形成了习惯性的压抑。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果一个人被锁在箱子里很久，他的腿是不能马上站立和走路的。如果我们有了压抑的习惯，我们很难在不需要压抑的时候依旧压抑，会变的特别的委屈和愤怒。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-role="list" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">解除习惯性压抑的方法是：</strong></span></p></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">努力的觉察和区分，过去（童年）那些“不得不”的压抑。然后你需要明白 —— 我现在已经成年了，我真的还需要这样吗？现在我的力量与能力，比过去的自己大几十倍。我已经有能力去改变，有能力真实的表达自己了。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们还愿意承受压抑，那也要接纳自己暂时就是这样的。不要自责和自我伤害。害怕、压抑的惯性是客观存在的，解除任何一个习惯都需要时间与力量，不能一蹴而就。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: 616.063px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97619" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section draggable="true" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(255, 76, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02</strong></span></p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒 · 包含着自尊自重的力量</span></strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">说到愤怒，很多人会觉得可怕、令人害怕和抗拒。实际上愤怒只是一个情绪而已，它和其他所有的情绪一样。会让我们害怕的，是表达愤怒的这个人，所附带的其他破坏性的行为和能量。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如，表达：我很生气，这是愤怒；摔东西、打人，也是愤怒。由于承载愤怒的个体是否学会了合理的表达愤怒，而造成的表达方式的不同。但愤怒本身只是种情绪，它并不是一定要暴力或者极端表达。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒里包含着力量和自尊自重。当你不断的退缩和被侵犯界限，你很难不愤怒。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-role="list" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">力量是我们改变的动力：</strong></span></p></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多你平时无力干、懒得干、不敢干的事情，当你愤怒的时候你就可以做了，而且很可能效率很高。人类很多的作为和精彩，都是一怒之下、盛怒之下做出来的。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但由于我们几乎没有学会如何正确的表达情绪。总是在压抑压抑再压抑之后，情绪无法控制了才被迫爆发。所以愤怒就成了暴力与发泄的代言。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但真正需要去解决的，并不是愤怒本身，而是不再压抑愤怒。要认识到：我们身体就像一个容器，当情绪压抑积攒到一定地步，就会像火山爆发一样失控。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">学习在每一次情绪升起的时候合理的表达真实的自己，合理的表达愤怒，而不是去压抑愤怒。压抑愤怒才会造成无法控制的后果和令人害怕的状况。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒中蕴含的是力量，你怎么用这个力量是你的选择。实际上悲剧和灾祸不是因为愤怒而生，而是因为你愤怒中的力量的偏差使用而生。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对有的人用这个力量去生气去破坏去攻击，有的人用这个力量去争取去发展去保护。怎么用是你的选择，但这个力量是宝贵的资源，就像汽车的马达。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当一个人愤怒的时候，我们内心的声音是什么？</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这太过分了！”“怎么可以这样？！”“这太不应该了！”我们内心一直在追求公平与合理的被对待。这就是自尊与自重，希望更好的力量。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尽管每个具体的愤怒的人，他们头脑里的观念、界限千差万别，并不总是合适，尤其是人在迁怒的时候。但这里面的倾向是追求自爱和自重。能够合理表达愤怒的人都不会过于内在受伤，不会患忧郁症。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: 616.063px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97619" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section draggable="true" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(255, 76, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03</strong></span></p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒 · 告诉你真正想要的是什么</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒告诉你自己想要的是什么，以及多么想要。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">若你能够稳住神，不去急于排除这种不快，不去急着诋毁、诽谤、发泄不满，而是能够对自己进行细细的观察：你会发现自己的内心有很多的饥饿，尤其是童年时的完全无助的饥饿。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒来源于我们想要却暂时还没有的东西，或者自己觉得不屑、但有没能获得的东西。简而言之：嫉妒就是我们没能看见、回避和逃避的内在需要。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒本身是一种饥饿感，它不来源于肉体，而来源于精神。填补精神饥饿最好的方法是：</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">先接纳自己这里是饥饿的，然后如果真的很想要，那就去努力，如果自己不想要，那就彻底的把它放下。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">虽然自我检查内在需求并不是一条轻易的路，但这是一条通往爱和希望的路。而让我们难受的嫉妒，正是提醒我们看见需要的信号灯。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: 616.063px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97619" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section draggable="true" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(255, 76, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">04</strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">悲伤 · 包含着疗愈与安慰</span></strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">通常我们在经历着悲伤的时候我们会做什么？疗伤、独处、与自己待在一起、求助或者自怜、整个人没有力量，也没空思考其他的。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多人都不喜欢悲伤。但细细回忆一下，每一次悲伤之后，我们的内在都会进行一次蜕变和升级。我们会经由经验悲伤，变得越来越强韧，越来越接纳，越来越成熟。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不要去劝说一个正在悲伤中的人尽快走出悲伤。陪着他，倾听他，对他说：</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你难过就尽情的哭出来。看着他哭个够，就是对他最好的安慰和爱。相信他在充分的悲伤后会接纳那个巨大的失落，并开始新的生活。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个人都需要时间和时机来整理、面对自己的内在。悲伤的尽头是接纳与转化。一个人若能明白悲伤背后蕴藏着的巨大礼物，那悲伤的使命就完成了，他也会越来越不容易产生悲伤了。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: 616.063px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97619" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section draggable="true" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(255, 76, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">05</strong></span></p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无聊 · 孕育着生命的价值和意义</span></strong></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">无聊甚至是珍贵的，如果你不急着把它赶走的话。青少年是很容易感到无聊的，此前太小不能够，此后麻木习惯。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以青春期时的无聊感，是一个被包裹的灯笼。如果他不急着跑出屋外，他会发现包裹中的光，而那是他接触自己此生原本使命的良机。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">年轻的时候总会感慨人生很无聊，我们在百无聊赖中用很多方法打发和消磨人生。</strong>然后人就长大了，高考大学毕业挣钱结婚养家，人变得匆忙没有空闲的机会，也习惯了用各种声色来消遣无聊。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们三十四十五十岁的时候，生命中似乎已经忘记了“无聊”的概念。我们把所有的精力都放在了家庭、事业上，在夜深人静的时候又开始问自己：“我内心真正想要什么，我生命的意义何在？”</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">人生最重要的并不是动起来，动起来和忙起来很容易；</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">人生最重要的，是能够静下来：</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们能够在无聊出现的时候，不回避、不逃避，不急于摆脱这种感觉，与自己内在的感觉见个面，那么你就会在里面探寻到生命真正的意义以及自己的真正需要。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无聊或者感觉没劲，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; caret-color: red; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">那都证明自己现在的生活、或者自己的现状并不是自己想要的，或者不是自己适合的。那么什么才是呢？你可以在“无聊”中寻找，如果你能够在无聊中安静下来，那你一定会找到！</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;outline: 0px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;visibility: visible !important;width: 616.063px !important;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="97619" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section draggable="true" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 24px; color: rgb(255, 76, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">06</strong></span></p></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 2px; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">焦虑 · 调整你头脑里的刻度</span></strong></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">现在很多人都很焦虑，焦虑让我们备受煎熬，甚至觉得很可怕。但它本身包含着极有价值的东西。</span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们觉得焦虑让我们觉得难受，是因为我们从来都没有在焦虑中，认真的去看看焦虑到底想要带给我们什么讯息。<br data-filtered="filtered" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们能在焦虑中安静下来，看看焦虑本身，焦虑会告诉你哪里做错了，哪里的界限是有问题的，哪里该停下来，整理整理，不要一个劲的向前冲。</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">最常见的产生焦虑的原因是欲望和内在的空虚。你不顾现实而过高的期望自己，有完美主义倾向，或者强迫性观念。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如你不顾事情的节奏而希望更快、更早、更好。倘若你能深入的察觉你的焦虑，你会看到自己头脑里刻度的偏差。把那个刻度调过来，你就会安然而有效。这非常重要，可以避免你此后很多的挫败、无望、自责、慌乱和失眠。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你坚持回避情绪，你必将被打扰。如果你极力避开情绪，你将被追上。而如果囚禁它，我祈祷你囚禁不成，因为一旦你成功了，身体就会不得不说话。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">身体和内在是会通过各种各样的方式与我们沟通的：</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如情绪、比如疾病——身体说话的方式是生病，绝大多数的疾病都是因为情绪。所以，请停下来，看看内在真正的声音。没有不好的情绪，只有不被尊重的情绪。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;">没有可怕的情绪，只有缺乏了解的情绪。</span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; font-size: 17px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">来源：心灵成长家园（ID：xinling_JY</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">）</span></span><a target="_blank" href="http://mp.weixin.qq.com/s?__biz=MzI5MzA5MzUzMA==&mid=2247537648&idx=3&sn=5c4cb441dcc5767ab8fd48d583da1fb5&chksm=ec757a05db02f313a39f9dfcb70dcec689dbb17bb0a1482a6961e1b4b60dc1681878eb335f46&scene=21#wechat_redirect" data-itemshowtype="0" data-linktype="2"><br></a></p><p style="text-align: center;"><br></p>转载声明：本文转载自「心师之友」，搜索「xlzxszy」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/wVOZaYqpfwK29rIPkXYyKA">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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