《青春期孩子心理特点及家长的应对手册》
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;text-align: center;color: rgb(34, 34, 34);font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;outline: 0px;vertical-align: bottom;display: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width:auto !important;max-width:100% !important;height:auto !important;"></span></p><section data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="margin: 10px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; 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text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们是不羁 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们是天边执着的飞鹰 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">没有什么能够阻止我们 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对美的向往 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">没有什么能够左右我们 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对青春的虔诚 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春最美的诗行 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">应该由我们 </p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大声地朗诵</p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">——席慕蓉《青春的诗》</p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 30px 15px 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; background-position: 55% 80%; background-repeat: no-repeat; background-size: 50%; background-attachment: scroll; border-width: 0px; border-radius: 3px; visibility: visible;"><section style="margin: 5px 20px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#2f8842" style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34);"><b>案例1</b></font><font color="#2f8842"><b><br></b></font></span></span></span><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px;"><font color="#222222">小兵，男13岁，学习成绩一般，脾气暴躁，喜欢网络游戏，爸爸和妈妈把家中电脑上了密码，加了锁后，小兵开始在家庭以外寻找一切可以玩网络游戏的机会，去同学家，去网吧等。打也打了，骂也骂了，劝也劝了，求也求了，一切皆无济于事。看着学业一天天荒废的小兵，爸爸和妈妈有一种欲哭无泪的感觉。<br></font></span><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font color="#222222"><br></font><font color="#2f8842" style="color: rgb(34, 34, 34);"><b>案例2<br></b></font></span></span><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(34, 34, 34);">小雪，女14岁，初中二年级，在爸爸和妈妈眼中，属于小公主型的宝贝，成长的过程中享受着全家人无微不至的呵护。而当女儿进入青春期后，那个曾经很温顺乖巧的小公主形像，一天天变了，变得让妈妈非常担心，又非常焦虑。女儿对学习索然无趣，也极少花心思去用在学习上，相反却在吃穿打扮上花尽心思。一谈到学习，小雪便会和妈妈大发脾气。一谈到做家务，小雪也会把责任完全抛给妈妈，只认可自己是孩子，做家务这些事，是全职在家妈妈应该干的事。最让妈妈无法接受的是，女儿小雪开始早恋了，这还怎么了得啊，真是看在眼中，急在心中，寝食难安。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P</p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px;">学生正处于青春期，生理和心理也发生一些列的巨变。要准备迎候激情的撞击，要体验到神秘的性意识的萌动，要体察到独立自我的觉醒，要经历具有人生奠定意义的“心理断乳”危机，总之是一个急风暴雨时期。也有人称为“第二反抗期”，“最年接受教育的年龄期”，“最危险的年龄期”的阶段。青春期孩子的心理特点：</span></p><section style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 20.2969px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.1em; margin-left: -0.2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left top 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: -2px; margin-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); transform: translate3d(5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); border-radius: 0px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 3px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">01</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -0.55em; margin-right: -0.6em; margin-left: auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left bottom 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">经常与家长“南辕北辙”</strong></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你说东来我偏要向西，这样的行为特点，往往让很多家长非常恼火，本来家长认为孩子不能这样做的事，现在想好心劝孩子不要这样做，可是孩子呢？偏就不听，偏就我行我素。比如还是案例中的小雪，平时妈妈想让女儿打扫一下自己的房间，女儿则一扬眉：“你做为全职太太，这点活还用得着我吗？再说我也不会用拖把啊。”再瞧小雪妈妈，几乎是欲哭无泪，事后一想，自己还真没有教育和引导过孩子做过家务。</span></p><section style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 20.2969px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.1em; margin-left: -0.2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left top 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: -2px; margin-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); transform: translate3d(5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); border-radius: 0px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 3px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -0.55em; margin-right: -0.6em; margin-left: auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left bottom 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">自我意识更强烈</strong></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青春叛逆期的孩子们，已经有了自己独立思考和判断事物的能力，这时的孩子在人生观和价值观方面已经有了初步的形成，孩子们眼中的世界和家长有着很大的区别。这时如果家长们去人为干涉孩子的想法和做法，往往会发生亲子矛盾和冲突。比如案例一中的小雪，当妈妈看到孩子在穿衣打扮方面有些消费过度时，便劝女儿，可是换来的却是一顿白眼和斥责：“同学都有名牌，为什么我不可以有？你就这么小气？”几句话让妈妈感觉气愤又无奈。</span></p><section style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 20.2969px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.1em; margin-left: -0.2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left top 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: -2px; margin-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); transform: translate3d(5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); border-radius: 0px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 3px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -0.55em; margin-right: -0.6em; margin-left: auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left bottom 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">请不要窥探我的隐私</strong></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多家长常常不理解孩子的心理在琢磨什么，因为大多数家长与孩子沟通产生了问题，甚至是障碍，孩子有什么话也不给你说，这不是急死个人的事儿？于是很多家长便想着办法窥探孩子的隐私。比如有一位妈妈担心女儿有早恋的现象，便经常关注女儿的QQ空间，经常关注女儿的日记和抽屉。可是有一天，女儿突然怒气冲冲地告诉妈妈：“请您以后不要再私自翻我的抽屉了，好吗？拜托了，我已经不再是小孩子了，我有自己的隐私空间了。”女儿的话让妈妈傻了眼。事后，妈妈终于弄明白，原来女儿设了机关，做了记号，只要自己动女儿的抽屉，就会被女儿察觉。</span></p><section style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 20.2969px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.1em; margin-left: -0.2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left top 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: -2px; margin-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); transform: translate3d(5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); border-radius: 0px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 3px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">04</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -0.55em; margin-right: -0.6em; margin-left: auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left bottom 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我在做我喜欢的事，别管我</strong></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 经常看到一些孩子迷恋于网络游戏，或者热衷于读网络小说，没事折腾QQ空间，再去看孩子们的家长，不是赌气，就是指责，甚至还有干脆断网的现象发生，这样做，几乎解决不了问题的根本。对于孩子们的个性化喜好，很多家长缺乏支持和理解的态度，仍然把全部目光都放在学习和成绩之上，如果看到孩子心思不在学习上，没有按自己要求去做，便会很不高兴，可是家长们没有想到的是，越反对，孩子越去做。</span></p><section style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 20.2969px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -0.1em; margin-left: -0.2em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left top 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; background-color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: -2px; margin-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); transform: translate3d(5px, 0px, 0px); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); border-radius: 0px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 3px 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; letter-spacing: 2px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">05</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -0.55em; margin-right: -0.6em; margin-left: auto; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 0.8em; transform: rotate(180deg);"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0.8em; height: 1px; transform-origin: left bottom 0px; background-color: rgb(62, 62, 62); transform: rotate(45deg);"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(112, 170, 98); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">坏习惯已经让某些行为产生了惯性</strong></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在家庭教育问题中，比较突出的一类问题，就是孩子学习兴趣不浓，成绩不理想。很多家长非常苦恼，道理说了千百遍，几乎不起任何作用，孩子该稀里糊涂地玩儿还是玩儿，根本没有危机感。比如有一位家长，看到即将中考的儿子仍然在我行我素，看在眼中，急在心上，没有什么办法，有时一提醒孩子，儿子便会说：“你考试？还是我考试？我都不急，你急什么？要不你考算了。”一句话，差点没把家长给晕倒。事实上，家长完全忽略了一点，那就是从小没有给孩子培养良好的学习习惯，相反，懒散的坏习惯倒是越大越显现出来。</span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P</p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="font-size: 18px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(255, 104, 39); box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长应对手册</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">面对青春叛逆期的孩子的心理和行为特点，家长们又该如何去调整自己的观念呢？如何解决亲子沟通中遇到的矛盾呢？让我们来看下面这个</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(255, 104, 39); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">《应对手册》。</strong></span></span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第一，放弃系在孩子身上的束缚，还其自由。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在孩子成长的几个阶段中，特别是到了“第三反抗期”——12—16岁这个年龄段，孩子们基本上已经到了独立放飞的阶段，如果这时家长们仍然紧紧束缚着孩子，必然要招致孩子的强烈抗争，上述几个特点分析中，都不难看出，孩子面对家长的管束，几乎都表现为一种张力。所以，对待“第三反抗期”的孩子们，与其如堵洪水一样，莫如用疏导的方式，给孩子们以自由，还他们飞翔的天空。这样，很容易让孩子们体验到翱翔的快乐后，认真对待爸爸和妈妈的意见和建议了。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第二，家长要转变家庭教育观念，尊重孩子。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在现代育人观念中，尊重孩子的家庭平等地位，在很多家庭中严重缺乏。这源于很多家长总把已经处于青春期的孩子们仍当几岁的小孩子来看待。如果家长能够让孩子们多参与一些家庭事务的商量和决策，倾听和尊重孩子的意见，会让孩子有强烈的家庭责任感的。同时让孩子多了解父母工作、生活和教育的艰辛，也会唤醒孩子对父母的理解和同情之心，当感恩之情被激活后，孩子自然会多体谅父母，认真做好自己份内的事，比如做一些家务，比如认真对待自己的学习，比如合理安排用电脑学习，或者安排游戏时间等。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第三，面对亲子关系中的矛盾和冲突，要冷处理。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">经常会看到一些家长与孩子在沟通中火冒三丈，而孩子呢，也往往是针锋相对，毫不示弱。面对亲子关系中的矛盾和冲突，我想告诫家长们：您一定要冷静下来！当“火星”光顾“地球”时，眼前要做的事，必须要调整星球的姿态和轨道，完全没有必要正面相撞，对于两者俱伤的后果，为何不选择避让来解决呢。“忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空。”这句话，在亲子关系中仍是非常适用的，特别是针对青春期的孩子来讲，家长的情绪会主导着孩子的情绪，家长退让了，孩子也就成了一只巴掌，拍不响了。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第四，了解青春期孩子心理和生理特点，理性应对。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多家长缺乏对青春期孩子身心特点的了解，平时也缺乏学习和积累相关的资料，这就导致家长们对孩子读不懂，看不透，更不知道如何针对孩子的心理和生理特点去沟通和交流了。事实上，“第三反抗期”的孩子们正值生理发育的高峰期，雄性激素和雌性激素的分泌，让男孩儿和女孩儿们身体内充满着躁动和不安，特别是感情的变化，注意力的转移，往往让孩子们更容易出现看待问题的偏激。而这时，家长必须要在了解孩子心理和生理特点的基础上去理性做好亲子沟通，从说话的语气、尊重的方式、事情的选择等方面充分尊重孩子的意见。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第五，家长要多了解时代接受新生事物，破解“代沟”。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多家长总爱陷入一种经验式的思考问题方式。动不动就拿自己当年的经历或者观点来管教孩子，这样做的家长恰是忽略了时代在进步，时代不同了，新生事物层出不穷，如果家长不能紧跟时代步伐，不接受新生事物，不更新观念，在亲子沟通中必须要出现“代沟”。当孩子感觉家长不理解自己时，慢慢也就不愿意和父母去废话了。比如网络之于很多家长，由于家长不学习、不了解、不实践，对网络就有一种戒备之心，这恰会造成与孩子之间无法沟通，甚至无法正确教育和引导孩子合理应用网络这种先进的工具。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第六，树立良好的形像少去唠叨和指责，榜样示范。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">明智的家长，一般不会随便开口去指责孩子的，总会先冷静观察孩子的言行，弄明白孩子在做什么，为什么要这样做，这样做的后果都有哪些等等，然后再运用技巧去和孩子做沟通。同时家长还要充分重视一点：那就是，一定要做好自身的榜样示范！对于青春期的孩子来说，眼睛是雪亮的，每时每刻都在关注着父母如何做事，如何说话。如果家长们在自己的形像上多下点功夫，通过学习提高自身修养，通过勤奋培养自身好习惯，面对孩子时，正应了：桃李无言，下自成溪。孩子对父母自是多了几分敬重，自然也就愿意听从父母的意见而做事了。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<strong style="color: rgb(255, 104, 39); font-size: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第七，家长要用发展的眼光来看待孩子，用心包容。</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; clear: both; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“第三反抗期”虽然时间跨度从12岁一直到18岁左右，但是这只是一个特定的人生成长阶段，有很多问题在孩子度过“第三反抗期”后，随着步入大学和走向社会，通过自身认知能力的发展，在社会这所大学校的重新再教育和影响下，会逐步纠正身上曾经拥有的一些不成熟的观点和做法。如此说来，家长无需为眼前看到的孩子身上存的一些行为习惯而苦恼。不过，对孩子进行长期的道德方面的教育和引导，对遵纪守法方面的教育和引导，坚决不能大意，这关系到孩子成长道路方向的问题。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 1px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">方向不偏，剩下的就是细节问题，对于枝枝杈杈，通过家长这个园艺师的修剪，相信会培育出一棵健康茁壮成长的参天大树的。</span></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; text-align: center; font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br></section>转载声明：本文转载自「心理提升课堂」，搜索「xlkt002」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/1N4gVjMoJD9s9bcwIjVHZg">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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