心理师请回答：救救拖延症！6种实战指南来了｜阡陌的述说
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powered-by="xiumi.us"><p>Answers</p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: justify;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="line-height: 3em;"><br></section></section><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p><strong> </strong><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">人们往往认为拖延就是因为懒，但其实这个“</span><span style="color: rgb(122, 68, 66);"><strong><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">磨人的小妖精</span></strong></span><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">”有很复杂的心理原因，也并非像你说的那样毫无意义，而是传递了一些重要的信息。</span></p><p><br></p><p>所以我们必须先了解：<strong><em>自己为什么要拖延？</em></strong><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;"></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p><br></p><p>我们可以先把拖延分为两大类：不想做和不敢做。再根据6种具体原因，分别说明相应的应对策略。</p><p><br></p><p><strong>第一大类：不想做某件事，因此一直拖延。</strong>不想做的原因一般有三种：</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">第一种，</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);"><strong>自己其实是愿意甚至喜欢做这件事的，但觉得难度太高，所以打起退堂鼓，不断拖延。</strong></span></p><p><br></p><p>应对的策略就是降低难度。</p><p><br></p><p>例如放下完美主义，不要给自己设定不切实际的过高标准，也不要认为必须准备得万无一失才能开始，要知道，完成比完美更重要。</p><p><br></p><p>另外还可以分解任务，把让人觉得难以完成的大任务，切分成很多个比较容易完成的小任务。例如，写这篇文章，我就分成了查资料、搭架子、填充、修改等很多小步骤。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">第二种，对事情本身无感，但把拖延当成一种宣泄情绪的方式。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);"></span></strong>例如对布置任务的人有意见、工作压力超过负荷等。这种情况需要直接去处理问题的根源，不要在表层纠结，用拖延来表达不满。</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">第三种，根本就不喜欢做这件</span></strong><strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">事。</span></strong></p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);"></span>遇到这种情况，或者练习如何完成令人不快的任务，因为人生中总有这样的事情存在；或者实在过于厌恶，也可以暂时选择放弃，只要能承担放弃带来的结果就行。</p><p><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p><br></p><p><strong>第二大类：不敢做，因为不想面对做完后的结果，因此宁可拖延着一直不做。</strong>也可以分为三种情况：</p><p><br></p><p><strong><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">第一种，怕失败，包括失败后发现自己没有想象中那么好。</span></strong>如果拖延着不去做，就永远不会失败，也挑不出毛病。</p><p><br></p><p>就像人们经常找的借口：我只是懒，如果有一天我勤奋学习，我的成绩一定会很好。戳穿了，这只不过是一厢情愿的想象。</p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);"><strong>第二种，怕成功。</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">怕失败好理解，因为人人都怕失败，怕成功又是为什么呢？</span>也许是怕成功后会被提更高的要求，也许是怕这件事完成了就要面对更难的事情…… </p><p><br></p><p>其实很多人怕成功都是在潜意识层面，自己并不清楚，只是一味拖延着，停在临门一脚前。</p><p><br></p><p><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);"><strong>第三种，怕不可预测的后果。</strong></span>例如很多人都拖拖拉拉地不想去医院看病或体检，就是怕查出来什么严重的疾病。如果能打包票去了一定会没事，拖延症立马就好了。</p><p><br></p><p><strong>对于这三种情况，我们必须明白，无论最终是什么结果，我们早晚都要迈出这一步。</strong><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;"></span><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">就像你说的，到最后该干的活还是得干。</span></p><p><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;"><br></span></p><p><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;"></span><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">逃避不仅浪</span><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;">费时间，影响心情，降低效率，而且会让我们陷入愧疚、沮丧和自我怀疑之中。</span></p><p><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;"></span></p><p><br></p><p><strong>看到这里，希望你无论如何，马上动起来。</strong></p><p><br></p><p>迈出第一步很困难，但是一旦开始，就像骑自行车一样，齿轮会越转越快。</p><p><br></p><p>等完成任务后，好好地犒劳自己，享受来之不易的胜利吧！</p><p><br></p></section></section></section><p powered-by="xiumi.us"><br></p><section style="justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; margin-top: 10px;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;vertical-align: top;align-self: flex-start;flex: 0 0 auto;background-position: -7.19715% -47.2123%;background-repeat: repeat;background-size: 22.4751%;background-attachment: scroll;padding: 24px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" sz_mmbiz_png="" t4vubvgmx1h5ftcajtlsivqqmiyofsvemyoolpceictw0zibhmouk7kuzs1rb0otzdtqatydqancprf1icke85fvq="" 640?wx_fmt="png&from=appmsg""" target="_blank">https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/sz_mmbiz_p ... p;from=appmsg");"><section style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(197, 131, 88);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p><span style="color: rgb(0, 128, 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